Socially Delayed
I did not have enough expeirence in my early years of being very social with others, my parents missed putting me in those situations. Now when I am around people my age, I find myself not knowing what to say or how to talk to them. I often wonder why people are social since in my lenses, I don't know how to maintain the connection.
I used to feel the same way. When I started high school I felt like I literally didn't know how teens acted. But it does get more natural the more you get out there or even be around people & see how they interact, even if you're not a part of the conversation. It also helps to go to places & events for stuff you enjoy so you'll have a common interest to connect over. Also, you'd be doing something so there'd be less pressure to talk constantly & fill the silences
All my socializing experiences are around m family and close friends. In my early years my family was very protective and didn't let us play outside the house. And that the reason why I feel very close to my family members and do not accept people easily When needing someone new I have to get use to them and I can't really function well around them. To the point were I would consider them part of "family" after some time which is missed up and not healthy. b/c these pp do not consider me as part of thir families and wouldn't care as if I were part of them and in the end I would feel sad deprived and used
I'm like that about deep stuff too. I used to bee like that about everything but I've been putting myself out there more talking to people at college & going to events for people w/ common interests & now I feel way more comfortable starting casual conversations w/ people. But for deep stuff I only feel comfortable telling people when we're super close & then I get way too attached to them. I can be emotionally needy because of SA & I feel like most people don't understand. But I'm realizing a lot of people feel like this in some form & it's not that uncommon, which helps. I'm trying to open up more to people I'm not super comfortable with. I still don't tell everyone everything & I don't think that's smart anyway but I'm trying to be more open about if something comes up in the conversation or there's something specific on my mind
