Bipolar and relationships.

me, personally, i can't balance it at all hahahh

but my boyfriend is very loving and he takes all my problems as a part of me and help me in difficult moments.

i have to admit it though, it is hard for both me and him sometimes. especially when im in the beggining of a depressive episode, and start doubting everything, being irritated with everything he does and provoking him as much as i can. Then, its hard especially for him.

But, looking around, i've know and seen many people with bipolar who are in stable relationships. With good therapy and proper meds, and of course, a good partner, the more sensible part of my brain can bet you can have a great relationship (although im doubting it nearly all the time but thats unimportant)

@Kewlcat69

I've recently been diagnosed with bipolar as well and I've been having similar questions. I'm currently single and don't plan on going into a relationship anytime soon but when I do I'm worried about telling potential partners about my diagnosis. There's such a stigma around bipolar and some people immediately run away from even someone mentioning it. But then I remind myself that these types of people would run away from anything even remotely difficult. And I think that being honest and open will help any type of relationship that we start with. We also have to be responsible for our own actions though and gather our own tools when difficult times do come.

I'm kind of just rambling here but I think in the end it's about finding people who understand, are patient, and have a good heart. This includes romantic relationships.

There is a guy who has a channel called "Polar Warriors." He has BPD himself. He talks about how people with bipolar disorder tend to have this bad habit called the "emotional drive-by."

Basically a lot of us have the habit of dumping our emotional issues onto our partners. We do this frequently without considering them and asking if they have the emotional capacity to handle our issues as well as theirs. We forgot to ask how they are doing and dump all of our problems onto them.

I myself am trying to navigate this after bipolar has finally come to my attention after 10 years undiagnosed. I have been doing little things around the house to make his life a little easier. I am also taking mood stabilizers for the first time and it is making a pretty positive impact. My psychiatrist upped my dosage and I'm hoping she'll continue to crank it up. Lol

Hopefully at least some of this helps. Even if we can stop the bad habits from forming and maybe we will have a chance.

In regards to having a stable relationship as a bipolar person - it's completely possible. I've been with my girlfriend 4 years now. She is the opposite to me in many ways and sometimes it causes a little conflict - I like to go out, she doesn't, I am usually in my own world, and she is much more grounded. But if I wasn't with her I would be out until 4am on occasions, in the casinos, living a crazy life, but now I'm quite stable.

It's funny littlekiwi about emotional drive-by because I'm the opposite. My girlfriend has depression and mental health problems (but not bipolar). I almost never tell her when I'm feeling bad (partly to protect her), which often leads to me burying it which causes issues for myself sometimes. I guess it's a balance.