Am I that bad?
Am I that bad at my job? Or is it my fear making me to believe that.
I get zero positive feedback from my job.
My job is not actually a job, I am a sceintist. There is so much to know, so much to learn. So much to consider.
I am getting older, all my years in science, 19 years including studentship, is it for nothing?
When am I going to feel satisfied? When am I going to be appreciated?
I feel so unsuccessfull, so worthless, incompetent, late... These feelings make me paralized, I can not work.
I hope I cover up soon.
@Ssamsymn
It is hard to stay the course in any job when you do not get feedback or the results to feel like progress is being made ...
It must be hard to go thru a lot of theories and experiments to not find a conclusive result. it takes a lot of self motivation to not get discouraged in that case.
It is very hard, thank you for your comment. And also I can not stop thinking about all the inbalances and bad behaviour in the work environment.
I am not appreciated at all... For almost 2 years. So exhausting.
And starting to doubt myself over and over again...
I quit my job.
I quit and realize that I relogged in to 7cups a few days before this decision. Maybe intuitive seek for help
@Ssamsymn All the very best. You quit as you felt it was the right thing to do. And I hope good things happen here on
Thank you sooo much @hopefuloutlook
I wish good things come and find me as soon as possible and you and each person here, reading this.
@Ssamsymn Thank you so much dear for wishing good for us all as well. It shows you have a good heart. Let's hope for the best, one day at a time, focus on things in our control rather than waste our energy on what's not! Feel free to message me in case you wish private support. Best wishes till then!
@Ssamsymn feeling unappreciated at work can really affect motivation and self-esteem. Some workplaces and managers are not good with feedback much less recognition and its hard to feel engaged and motivated in your work. Feeling this way is understandable especially when you have been in this situation for a long time.
If you're willing tor try a few different things I have some suggestions.
1. Tap into and focus on your strengths. Take the via strengths assessment. It's free. Lots of research showing using our top strengths in new ways improves engagement and wellbeing.
2. Can you create opportunities for feedback? If you have performance discussions ask for the feedback you want or ask for a check-in or development discussion with our boss if possible and ask what he is happy with with, what he would like to see more of etc
3. Make a list of your own achievements (even if they are small things) and what you do enjoy about your job.
I hope this helps and remember you are never alone.
aw hey @Ssamsymn oof that sounds like a really heavy wave of thoughts crashin over you. it makes sense that you feel this way when you've put so many years into your work. you're not alone in this, so many scientists (and people in general!) ask themselves these same questions
i don't know if this helps, but the fact that you care enough to ask these questions? that says something. about your dedication, your effort. that's big. sendingg you a lil' bit of strength🫶
Why do you need validation and why you so down? Sounds like you need to change jobs. Volunteer for things and try new stuff. What are you good at? Help people
Thanks everyone who responded. Update after six months, I was a very far away country from my home country. I quit my job there, came back home. I will start a new job here soon.
But guess what? I downloaded 7cups again, let me seeI downloaded it just before what this time.
