Can't Start
How do you convince or get yourself to try? I am struggling to even start things and sticking with something seems like an impossible task. I have no motivation to do anything and can't seem to get any.
@obligatoryusername
Motivation is tough when we are feeling low or stuck. What works for me is not getting overwhelmed by what I need to do, but starting small, focusing on accomplishing one thing first, and allowing this to build up my confidence, small and manageable tasks are key 💜🥰
@Amanda84 I feel defeated even by small tasks, it's like I am rooting against myself. Breaking things down into smaller and smaller pieces and still failing. When things are so stupidly simple it feels worse to fail and if I end up accomplishing any of those miniscule things I can't be proud or feel anything but worthless.
@obligatoryusername
You are definitely not worthless, get that out of your head 💜 Find something you are passionate about and stop rooting against yourself and being so hard on yourself 🥰💜
I was in a similar position at the factory I work at. I kept moving departments and at each job I was expected to already know things since I had been with the factory for a couple years already. Unfortunately I was not familiar with the particular details if each area and found myself making big mistakes everywhere I went. It was devastating to my self esteem. I found myself afraid to even do simplest task. I was finally permitted to return to my original area. I still made small mistakes but my team didn't make a big deal about them. Just being able to return to what I know and given a little compassion for being human I am now the team leader in my area. I hope you can find what you know and allow yourself some compassion for being human.
I dont have much of an answer. I know I often feel the same. It becomes difficult to do more than the bare minimum for survival, even if I know I could be far more productive.
We need a reason beyond ourselves, I suppose. Because so often I find myself and others saying something like "I don't care what happens to me" and I now think this phrase is a double edged sword. On one edge we have a selfless person who would do anything for others. But on the near edge we have someone who will waste away if there's no one who needs them.
Like I said, I have no answer. Just my own troubles with this issue.
@obligatoryusername
Maybe what you need is some familiar routine? The moments just after you wake up can be pivotal—that is to set your mind and body into an "active mode" instead of some "overthinking mode".
Having your alarm clock set and a list of your normal morning activities in mind (or in black and white) could give you a sense of agency and some healthy self-discipline (needles to say, they both improve self-esteem).
If you do have any scheduled activities, like going to work or school, that could make the whole thing easier. If you don't, you may create you landmark activities yourself (e.g. "at 9 a.m. I am reading a chapter from a new book").
Important notice: the above mentioned may not help in case you have been diagnosed with some clinical depression.
@jacek73 clinical depression confirmed
@obligatoryusername
Then simple ways, as those I suggested, may scarcely work or not work at all.
First, the chemistry in your brain must go back to the right balance. Otherwise, that could be like jogging with a broken leg.
Some people believe their deep faith (religion) or nourishing relationships with their family and friends can bring them back to health. But some other people (including some mental health professionals) doubt about that.
I think that it could no harm if you could also discuss it with your doctor - to let him know how the pharmaceuticals he prescribed to you work (or: do not work), and let you know what improvements and when you might expect...
Update; things are bad, worse than before. I keep thinking I'm near the bottom but haven't hit it yet. Hopefully soon.
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