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Am I being tested?

I feel like I'm repeating the same cycle with my relationships. I attract men with similar qualities to my ex, and I'm trying to understand if I'm doing something wrong. My ex used to drink, and my current partner doesn't, but he has a bad temper. They have similar work, ways of thinking, and responses to things like therapy. I sometimes feel he regrets rushing into marriage because of all the changes and responsibilities. This makes me question our relationship a lot. I'm tired of repeating myself, and his refusal to seek therapy makes me feel like our relationship is sinking. I no longer crave intimacy, and his constant attention to his phone over me hurts. I need to know what to do to stop this cycle and find happiness.

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User Profile: slowdecline48
slowdecline48 June 18th, 2024

Get used to being solitary & develop your own mind. After enough run-ins with other people (including a few truly dangerous psychopaths), I realized that the odds are against finding a true friend, let alone a partner in life. Since then I've pursued my own interests while keeping my life as simple as possible.

User Profile: tidyPenny2337y
tidyPenny2337y June 18th, 2024

@straightforwardThinker4420

i too feel a similar frame.  I also feel so baffled and over it in so many places in my life. I pray God will give me some consistent peace and relief and discernment and spaces to unfold safely and get to the bottom of it all with covering and resources