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Help I don’t know what to do when I feel like this. When everything hurts inside and I don’t want to go on. It’s every day, and I’m so tired. I don’t know what to do.
Im sorry I didn’t mean to post twice. Could a moderator delete the second for me?
Hi @bickerskitty.
I read your post and you sound like you are giving up..
I don't have any definitive information but reaching out for help is a solid start. You haven't posted enough information that can be useful enough. But it sounds like you are having difficulty finding the words to find assistance.
If I was to guess what to do is discuss this with a therapist or listener immediately!!
I hope I have been useful to you
Thank you, maybe I will. Im just not good at talking. And it feels like it won’t help. But thank you for replying, I really appreciate it.
@bickerskitty
I hope you find what you need to recover.
@bickerskitty
I also want to point out that every year has a ending and beginning.
There are terrible years, there are ok years, and there are great years.
I have wanted to give up many times but i discovered that by pushing through the pain and suffering was worth it.🌟
I’ll try to remember that. This year has been dark, but there are good days. Or rather good moments. I’ll try and keep living for those.
@bickerskitty i'm glad I met you.
You are stronger than you think.
Yes, definitely! The dark years are back breaking for sure!
Im happy to have met you as well. It does help to have someone listen and understand. Thank you so much.
@bickerskitty
Could you do me a favor?
I want you to believe again...
When new years eve comes, could you look up to the heavens and remember your time at 7 cups?
Yes, I’ll do that. I actually really needed to hear that right now. You’re amazing AsherTree.
@bickerskitty
Thank you for inspiring me to stay strong.
I am a listener and you can find me regularly in the forums if you wish to share something with me.
That’s a great comfort, thank you!
hey. i wish i could give u the answer ur looking for and tell u what to do but i dont know either. i wish i did. ur post touched my heart. ur not alone in how u feel. i hope u find some sort of comfort in knowing that a stranger understands you. more than you know.
Thank you, I really appreciate that. It sounds like you have faced similar struggles, so I hope you also find some peace.
@bickerskitty I'm sorry you're hurting this much right now. It sounds exhausting to carry these feelings every single day, and I'm glad you reached out instead of keeping it all inside. You do not have to go through this alone. Even if things feel hopeless right now, your feelings matter and so does your life. Please try to reach out to someone you trust, like a friend, family member, counselor, or crisis line, because you deserve support and care. I'm here to listen!
Thank you so much. It’s just really hard right now, cause I feel this strange sense of worthlessness. Like I’m just lesser than everyone around me. It makes me hate myself, and then I have all these dark emotions hitting me all the time. I have bad social anxiety so it’s hard for me to reach out for support. I’ve never even told a soul that I’ve been depressed for half my life, or the things it’s made me do or the thoughts it’s brought.
I’ve overcome depression. It’s tricky, sometimes with a relapse, but you can learn how to reframe thoughts if it creeps back.
I was about to post to your original post about how self compassion is key, then saw this.
Honestly, depression can make us think others think things they aren’t actually thinking.
You are worth so much more than you realize, and really, it’s your opinion that matters, not theirs.
Maybe give yourself a compliment, or put your hand on your heart and express care…. There are many practices available for self compassion.
More things…. You are not your thoughts and you don’t have to believe them. Mindfulness meditation helped a ton there. The kind where you just sit still trying and focus on your breath, then (often immediately for me) your mind wanders and when you notice, gently guide it back to the breath like a lost puppy. Doing this 5 minutes here and there, you start to see your thoughts as just thoughts that you don’t really need to follow.
I didn’t have depression my whole life, but I did have debilitating social anxiety after a tough life change that papered over depression. I read a lot of self help books, scoured the internet for answers, pushed myself to start talking with store clerks (instead of only self checkout) and eventually tried a therapist. All of these things helped a bit
@bickerskittyHi~~~ I just wanted to share something with you. I’m from China, and I think our culture is quite collectivist compared to some other countries. A lot of people here tend to look for validation from others, and because of that, it can be really hard to feel genuinely happy, even when you meet society’s expectations or seem “better” than others.
When you said you’ve been struggling with feeling worthless because you’re not better than other people, it really touched me. But I want to gently say that your value is not defined by comparison. The fact that you are able to open up and share your feelings here already shows a lot of courage and strength.
Everyone has their own path and pace. I truly believe you might be seeing yourself more harshly than you deserve. You are more capable and meaningful than you think.
@bickerskitty I don't know what you are facing and what you feel, but I know that you're tired. Sometimes the tiredness is needed, and sometimes it's not. You can rethink it and share with a trusted person; your feelings need to be respected smartly.
I quite understand how you feel. It's normal to feel that way sometimes. It's good though, that you found time to express it here. That shows that you have the courage to face your fears and you are doing quite well. Don't push yourself too hard. Life has its ups and downs but the courage to keep trying is what matters and that is exactly what you have demonstrated. Don't be tired. You will surely be fine. Just know that you are not alone. Warm hugs from me 🤗 ❤️
@bickerskitty hi , me too. Message me please ok
Thank you so much everyone for the support. Your kind words mean the world, and truly make it a little brighter for me.
I wasn’t sure what to expect from 7 cups since I’m very new, but you all have really helped me weather a dark few days and I’m eternally grateful.
@bickerskitty can we text. You have a #?
Im sorry, I’d prefer not to give my number on here. But is there a way we can message through the app?
@bickerskitty no , or get *** we can easily chat there! Or # , let me know please thank you so much
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@bickerskittyit it wouldn't let me type it, but I sent it in the last comment, get that app. It'll be easy to txť there! Let me know
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You helped me so much too!
We are all in this together to support each other like a family