I am new. I am always sad and not well.
I'm not feeling well.
I've been very sad for about a year.
I do nothing during the day, not even my favorite activities. I used to be a good student, I used to get high grades, but now my grades have dropped, and I no longer have the desire to attend school. I hand in most of the exam papers blank and get bad grades. Sometimes I force myself to do sports, read books, and study, but after a few days, I get tired again and I don't feel like doing anything.
I am constantly tired and without energy. I lost my friends. When I try to talk to someone about my problems, they say that it's all your fault that you're unhappy and you should decide to be happy, but I don't know how to be happy.
What should I do? How can I be happy again and be a good student?
دیگر هیچ چیز برای من لذت بخش نیست، حتی چیزهایی که زمانی دوست داشتم برای من لذت بخش نیستند.
And I get angry very quickly.
It's a bad feeling, I don't know why I'm like this.
@PinkChocolatePrincess welcome to cups ❤ I'm lola I'm glad you found cups ❤ first thing sweetie is to reach out to a doctor or health proffesional. Motivation to even get out of bed can be hard, I know that. So while you feel like this, be kind to yourself lots of self care. Maybe small tasks. Little by little do things that make you proud of yourself ❤ every thing will be ok ❤❤
Happiness is a decision, a choice that you make because you realise that not being happy or being unhappy does not feel good anymore or helps you in any way.
As soon as you get up in the morning tell yourself: Today I intend to be happy and I will intentionally and deliberately look for things or actions that make me feel good about myself. Today I realise that happiness is in my own hands and the Universe will guide me towards this
@HelpWisely that's right, hapiness is not a destination, it's a state of mind. We can choose happy ❤❤
Hi! Have you spoken to a doctor or therapist? It sounds like you may need some support, perhaps medication to help to lift you out of this. I feel the same right now, I have just switched medications and waiting for them to work. I know it’s hard, and the first move is the hardest
@downinthedumps2023 good luck I hope the new meds work ❤
@PinkChocolatePrincess You are feeling sad for a reason. People who don’t listen and who blame you and tell you it’s your fault are not truly listening. A therapist might help, but if they push antidepressants on you they are not really listening either. The reasons you feel sad are about things that are really important to you. If you honor those reasons it may not make the sadness disappear but at least you don’t have to pretend they are not important. Many people would suggest you extinguish your sadness by pumping yourself full of happiness. It’s as if they assume sadness is like cold air and all you have to do is turn on the heat. Sadness means you care deeply about something. Acknowledging what you care about is one way to be happier. I hope you can find people who support and truly listen to you.
@PinkChocolatePrincess
im sorry to hear that you are sad and unwell. I’m really glad that you are here and hope you find this community to be supportive.