I hate when people can't stand you crying!
I'm sorry but it makes me so angry that I have to ask my friend that I don't want to be told to just "breath and let go my bad feelings".
It's the inmidiate suggestion they gave me when I reach for help. I tell them i'm not feeling good, could you keep me company? And when I start crying is "breath and tell the feeling I recognize you but leave" i hate it!
The suggestion is useful. Don get me wrong but to actually recognize my feeling I NEED to feel it! Is it uncomfortable? Yes it is! But I need to feel it and then breath and let it go. But they can't. They can't give company in those struggling moments. Just the good ones!
So I realize I'm alone when I'm feeling down. Cause I have to feel my bad moments alone!
Or worst I have to have enough energy to Ask to my friend please just stay and don't suggest me this and I have to tell them what I want all the time!
I understand they can't know what do I need but seriously... Tell me to calm down immediately?
@BlackRousse
I guess sadly , most people lack empathy in certain situations.
Absolutely you should be able to cry!
And process as you need to!
Sometimes, people don't know what to say or do, or feel uncomfortable, it's about just leaning into it at that given moment and being a silent but strong presence 💖
@Amanda84 I just needed a hug. Or I'm here!
Thanks btw
@BlackRousse
A pleasure 💜
My mom yells @ me now when I cry. People seem to react with anger. I’d get my tear ducts removed if I could. No one can concentrate on what I’m saying because they’re *** about my crying. Well I’m *** about the drinking & then slurring their words & wanting to talk about something important or stomping around & slamming doors people in my life do to cope with or express their feelings-or the yelling-crying is worse than all that? Sometimes I want to say “really? And I’m the one religiously taking medication to stay on an even keel? And that’s what an even keel looks like? But my shedding tears is the anger provoking triggering deal breaker for everyone?”
So I feel you. In fact I’m new here & I was so happy to read that someone else felt this way I almost cried. No, I didn’t. Actually writing that almost made me laugh. Never wrote it out before but once I did, I felt better. Why are we so awful because we shed a few tears? I am patient with everyone else’s everything.
Thank you so much for writing that. Did you know tears are good for your skin? It’s true:)
My mom yells @ me now when I cry. People seem to react with anger. I’d get my tear ducts removed if I could. No one can concentrate on what I’m saying because they’re *** about my crying. Well I’m *** about the drinking & then slurring their words & wanting to talk about something important or stomping around & slamming doors people in my life do to cope with or express their feelings-or the yelling-crying is worse than all that? Sometimes I want to say “really? And I’m the one religiously taking medication to stay on an even keel? And that’s what an even keel looks like? But my shedding tears is the anger provoking triggering deal breaker for everyone?”
So I feel you. In fact I’m new here & I was so happy to read that someone else felt this way I almost cried. No, I didn’t. Actually writing that almost made me laugh. Never wrote it out before but once I did, I felt better. Why are we so awful because we shed a few tears? I am patient with everyone else’s everything.
Thank you so much for writing that. Did you know tears are good for your skin? It’s true:)