Need advice
About my relationship it's like a tug of war sometimes things are good my bf said things like cussing and I told him don't cuss and he didn't want to go to church with me but then says he does I think he's not really whole in himself and I'm trying to feel stronger in myself but I also feel like he likes acting rebelois to me also it feels like he said today just cuz I love you doesn't mean I'm gunna do eveuthing you say then we had a big talk as I'm like going out the door to an appt about how its a big commitment and I think pregnancy is hard he's more concerned about his assets or soemthing and then me asking to spend quality time feels like he also just pulls away so at this point kdk what to do
@faithfulShade7858
It seems like you and your boyfriend are on different pages, that doesnt mean you cant get on the same page but maybe how you communicate isnt working. Youre asking him to not cuss, attend church, and sharing that you feel like hes talking about you less as a person but as an object - we dont know how hes feeling about these things maybe he has a deep perspective or maybe he just needs to fully hear what youre saying. Is there a way you could fully finish and say all your thoughts and he has the space to do the same without the pressure of an argument?
Feels like he's just avoidant no matter what it is like we are trying to talk about things but then there is like little follow up. It's a lot for rent to handle right now because we had a crisis in Hawaii too so things r extra sensitive. I just think he shouldn't like abandon me and people when you are close it's nice to keep building closeness
@faithfulShade7858
Youre totally right he shouldnt have just turned his back on you, both of you are going through this time and part of being in a relationship is working together. Its not cool to be avoidant you are clearly trying and putting the work in.
@faithfulShade7858 I hope you find some helpful insights here 🍀🤍 Sending you lots of love 💗💗
I appreciate that I just hope things feel less tense and maybe he can surrender more into things I kisy gotts focus on myself but it's important to not just🐬 dip out if care about someone
@faithfulShade7858 focusing on yourself sounds great, be gentle with yourself, and take it one day at a time 💜 I'm here for you, you got this 💗🫂