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Like tiny whisper I'm very depressed and in a dark place no one to talk to cry all the time I pray a lot but I thought I would get extra support here but no listener stays they all leave so I'm left alone again to deal with the problems on my own if no one wants to listen they shouldn't be a listener I'm sorry just a rant my anxiety is so high
@crimsonMaple6796 I'm so sorry to hear that you're in a very dark place and I really do hope you find the support you need. I'd like to remind you that listeners are volunteers who give of their time to help others. Often times, we deal with our own mental health issues and still want to help others despite it. Listeners do not get paid for the time they give so anytime they give, I am grateful for them. Listeners have lives of their own so the amount of time they have with you should be disclosed at the start of the session. It's unfortunate if you leave a chat with a listener and do not feel completely supported. If the current listener has to go for whatever reason, it would be nice to thank them for their time, and go find another listener to chat with for additional support. One listener cannot be the source to help you feel fulfilled. That's not their role. Often times, I feel members are just sad and feel alone that they lash out on listeners or put unrealistic expectations on them. I'm not saying that's you or what you are doing but the mention if they have to leave or can't listen then they shouldn't be listeners came off a bit rude. You have every right to feel you do and I really am sorry you feel unsupported at times. There are so many amazing listeners on here with genuine intentions and passion and I am grateful for them all. I do hope that if you need further support that you put a request in the general request queue or browse for one that is available for 1-1 chats. I thank you for presence on 7cups and you deserve to be heard and supported. PS: If you have met Tiny, then you have just met one of the most beautiful souls I have ever met. She may be "depressed" at times but she is such a strong, amazing, loving, caring, beautiful human being. ♡ Let me not get sidetracked. Anyway, I am wishing you all the best and wishing you healing and happiness. Please take care. Xoxo.
Yes mam I understand they are sorry if I sounded terrible it's just my emotions are all over the place don't wanna hurt or cry anymore just seems like as soon as I ask or advice they leave no one has answered with any advice or help
@crimsonMaple6796 You didn't sound terrible and I don't think for a second you meant any harm. ♡ You have a right to feel the way you do and you do deserve to be heard. I would like to remind you though that giving advice is frowned upon. Listeners should not be giving advice as it sometimes can do more harm than good. They can support you by being there for you and offering an ear but we really should not be asking for advice. The listener, however, can help you explore ways that you may feel would benefit you best. You know best as it's your story and your feelings. I'm sending hugs your way. Remember: you are special, valuable, and important. I hope you are soon to connect with an amazing listener to support you as you manage your emotions. ♡
@crimsonMaple6796 Hey :) Tbh it can be hard to find a good listener sometimes. Especially one that will stick around. The good ones usually end up limiting their listening to members they've talked with for awhile. Some members can be abusive at times - so I do understand why they don't take on new members
The forums can be helpful. It gives you a place to vent and people can reply. But it can also be frustrating because they might not reply when you want or need them to
I do hope you find the support you need though because we all need that at times
There are different ways to get support here and sometimes listeners can't be as consistent as we would like.
But if you want a spot to do a daily dump of how things are going, right here is awesome. I can pretty much guarantee that I will respond once per day, every day for as long as you type stuff. @crimsonMaple6796
How were things today?@crimsonMaple6796
Not any better but alcohol killed the pain today
I am sorry to hear. Some days becoming numb can help, but the frustration is that long term everything gets dulled.
When I am in the hole, I try to start with the basics. How are you doing on eating and drinking water? @crimsonMaple6796
I drink water but have lost 20 lbs so far cause I don't wanna eat just have no appetite
I know that appetite can be really hard. Sometimes you have to force yourself a bit. Keep reminding yourself that without food your brain is going to make you feel even worse and more desperate. Your brain is lying to you when it says you don't need to eat. Each little bit that you eat makes healing and feeling better more possible. Work on that for the next week and see if it improves your mood. @crimsonMaple6796
@crimsonMaple6796 gives you a giant tiny hug ❤❤❤squeezes you tightly ❤. I hang around in the chat rooms. Cause I've had a hard time finding listeners at the start. The chat rooms are awesome and so supportive. Come say hi. See what happens, you might find all the support and friendship you need there. Good luck sweetie ❤❤
Ive tried it doesn't work thank u all ive just decided today that giving up is a better option you all take care and I hope u get the help u need in life
We are going to keep working to get you the help that you need. You deserve it and we aren't going to give up on you. @crimsonMaple6796
Hope you feel better now