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Wanting to run away

User Profile: Lilahlady94
Lilahlady94 August 22nd, 2025

I am in a relationship with a good man, someone who's shown me love like no one else has before. But there are times when situations get rough and my first instinct is to pack up and leave. I know all relationships, even healthy ones can have there hard moments. 

I just find that in these moments where I feel like everything is falling apart triggers responses that come from past trauma and abuse. 

I have tried seeking out a therapist, I found no help. At this point I am grasping at straws in hopes I don't loose him, and the only good thing that's happened in my life. 

How can I relinquish the feeling of fleeing? How can I rewire my brain to understand I am no longer in those abusive situations before it's too late?


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User Profile: peachThinker662
peachThinker662 August 22nd, 2025

@Lilahlady94

I think your awareness is You already working towards healing and doing the right thing. Trauma does a lot to us and one of those things are self sabotaging behaviors. You are not alone. 

You do sound like you care about the relationship. I hope you are able to communicate your thoughts with your partner and they play a supportive role. 

You got this ❤️❤️

User Profile: Thepeacewithinus
Thepeacewithinus August 23rd, 2025

@Lilahlady94
I can totally understand what your feeling, the past is something that affects us all. Understand yourself and that you were broken, accept the fact. Tell your partner what do you feel and just speak your mind out to him, explain to him what situations cause you to think like that and what can be done. As you told he is a good man and he wont be abandon you, he will help and support you to overcome it. If he is the one who you want for the rest of your life, there is no harm in asking him to help and in turn his care and support will strengthen your bond and deepen your relationship. We are all humans and there is nothing wrong in accepting we need help. Your lucky you have a good man with you who will understand you. 
With his help and your mind you can conquer the world.