Whats the dam point??
Whats the point anymore?
You have "friends" and they say "text me whenever you need me"
So you do
And you tell them whats going on in your life
And they do the same
And then you start hearing less
And less
And less
From them
So you confront them
And they gass light you
Saying how you took advantage of them
And how they dont want to hear whats going on in your life
So you end that friendship
I need new friends
Please
I dont see the point anymore though
@brenbird 😞 I'm sorry 💙 you deserve better 💙
@brenbrid This sounds so painful. Being rejected by someone we trusted and showed up vulnerably to.
I wonder, would you want to share what do you think made them say those things? Please, know that I am not asking it to justify their actions. I ask cause you might have some thoughts and it might be good to let them out. Also, it might bring some relief if you were able to see where they misunderstood or misinterpreted something. Not sure if it would help if it could be explained as immaturity and not actual malicious intent?
@pinkCherry1616
I would ask them how their day was and how they were doing and them id be like oo nice thats good i did this my day was this im feel like tjis
Does talking about it make sense to you? Like does it seem to have value for you? Or you feel you need something else?
Below some questions in case you wanted to go deeper:
Did you think about their reason for accusing you of using them too? What could have they misinterpreted?
Are the interactions you described in your reply the ones that followed the deeper confessions? Any idea what made you focus on this part when we’re writing your reply? It sounds like maybe you find the behavior confusing… I think it sounds like they got upset and didn’t share it until they didn’t want to be friends anymore…
@pinkCherry1616
I did, i gold thek my sode and they got even more upset and rude towards me
@brenbird oh, it sounds like maybe you tried to work it out through the misunderstanding and got met with more anger. That is sad. It’s unfortunate that some people get really defensive and then lose ability to communicate. This part is likely on them and not you. If you tried to respectfully work through that, then you can give yourself a pat on the back and acknowledge that you did.
There are people who can argue fairly. I hope you can make friends like that.
@brenbird Sounds like a level gap here. Maybe it was an analysis of your reality; it's hard to define gaslighting, to be honest. Friends are everywhere, but do you actually want them?
I think this is a struggle for people who haven't gone through depression. They offer help genuinely but don't understand the frequency of what we go through. Or they may not see why some things are important to us. I'll often tell people something and have them downplay it. They don't understand it isn't as simple as "dont think about that". I dont believe it is intentional; they just can't see it from your perspective.
But people are here for you through resources like this. Others who understandand appreciate your struggles. I'm here to listen and it seems like so are many others. We want you to feel heard and valued.
I think this is a struggle for people who haven't gone through depression. They offer help genuinely but don't understand the frequency of what we go through. Or they may not see why some things are important to us. I'll often tell people something and have them downplay it. They don't understand it isn't as simple as "dont think about that". I dont believe it is intentional; they just can't see it from your perspective.
But people are here for you through resources like this. Others who understandand appreciate your struggles. I'm here to listen and it seems like so are many others. We want you to feel heard and valued.
I feel that in my soul, I must include family in as well. I don’t know if it’s just the way it is but it’s almost like they care but they don’t meaning they may have problems of their own they are dealing with. Not they are meaning to be unsupportive, life has a way to engulf you at times. I’m sorry you are dealing with this, truly. I’m still searching for answers I can only hope the good people on this app can listen without judgement and pick us up somewhat to get through another day. Praying for your comfort.