You know who focuses on the positive? Losers.
This is why I want an actual human being to talk to - not a career therapist but someone who is bored enough or kind enough to actually have an honest conversation. I feel like the Joker when his therapist asks him if hes having any negative thoughts. Therapists are readers and talkers, they are not very physical people and Id say seem pretty emotionally dead and lacking true empathy probably only gained in most humans from being personally afflicted by the condition they are supposed to be empathizing with. It is sometimes hard to empathize with something you have not personally been through.
@patrik9321 I agree with you. When you focus on the positive you are either denying negatives exist or distracting yourself from them. If you do that, nothing will ever get fixed.
The book 7 Cups for the Searching Soul describes how denial and distraction are like an infection, and everyone needs to find an antidote to it in order to be able to live the life they want. There was a time, it seems long ago now, when this philosophy was at the heart of 7 Cups.
However, I happen to know some career therapists who actually do have honest conversations and who understand the healthy energy and power that can result from loss, anger and tears. I know there are a lot of incompetent therapists out there who will never get it, but there are also a few good ones.
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Charlie