Can depression be linked to spousal abuse?
Hello All,
I am new to posting on a message board about things like this. Sadly I do not have very many friends to turn to about something like this.
I am wondering if anyone knows or have experience with this kind of situation or if it is normal for men to show depression as anger.
I have been told to try going to groups for spouses but sadly that is not an option as he watches everything I do like a hawk and if there is any clue of something like this I am not sure what he will do. (No physical violence I can say that. Only verbal)
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@MitsukiMoon well, depression can come in many forms, for anyone really. And that includes coming out as anger, emotional outbursts, and redirecting emotions onto someone else. I've experienced this as well, my boyfriend often expresses anger and violence (same as you though, mostly just verbal, though some physical in particularly bad times), and it can almost always be traced to the times when he's feeling the most stressed and sad--his sadness comes out in anger towards others, as his way to cope with the emotions. "Normal" is hard to say, since everyone is so unique and there's so many factors, but it can certainly happen.
It's not an easy thing to go through, and it can be complicated sometimes, torn between wanting to get help and not being able to (for worry of his reaction) and knowing what is understandable (in that, the actions aren't because he's a bad person, but just because he's going through a hard time), and what's just unacceptable.
I don't really have a solution for you, I know what you're experiencing can be so tough but you're certainly not alone, it is something that happens. I think addressing the underlying causes of his actions is a real possibility for changing the dynamic, but of course starting that change is always the hard part