Coping with Loss & grief
It has been 3 months since i lost my father
Everything feels hard since then
Sometimes I'm ok
Sometimes I'm not
In a sudden i can cry while having fun
I don't know if it's depression, but seems not
@worryBear
grief is different for everyone and some confuse it for depression as well...... i wish you the best as it can come and go and the smallest items can trigger the feelings.
when a close person passed i learned from a friend the person had a favorite candy i can not even look at those without having sad feelings anymore as silly as that sounds...
@worryBear
Oftentimes grief sends us through a catapult of feelings, whether you feel happy some day or very sad another. It's normal to go through sadness and I'm hoping all becomes more well and consistent for you soon.
Grief and depression can be intertwined. I am so sorry that you have been struggling. Everyone's path through grief is different. Do you have people that you can talk to?@worryBear
Not really
It can be tough when you don't have people outside of those who are grieving on their own. But you aren't bothering or upsetting people when you admit you are sad. They are sad too and probably like to occasionally share that with other people.
But we are also a great dumping ground right here. Feel free to post any time in the weeks and months to come.
How were things today?@worryBear
Still the same, i can't sleep well last night. Those last memories keep lingering
I am sure that they do keep lingering. Those moments had to have been quite painful and your brain keeps returning to them.
What kinds of things are you trying to help bring about a little more sleep? @worryBear
When I'm tired of crying
Do you have any routines at bedtime to make it a more soothing experience?@worryBear
Aha now i know. Sometimes i will light up scented candle! Psst almost everytine it's hard to understand myself and hardly know what i like 😂
It is absolutely hard to know what you like or what helps. And that changes over time too. But try the candle while that is working and then try something else when it isn't. Maybe a stuffed animal or a warm bath before bed. Maybe reading a book or listening to a little music. Keep experimenting. Any little comfort you get is worth it. @worryBear
How has the rest of your week been? I have been thinking about you.@worryBear
Thanks for the concern. Everything is good. Just still battling with grief and negative thoughts
It will probably continue on some level for a while. Do the best you can to focus on the okay moments. You are having those too. @worryBear
@worryBear
You can try to distract yourself and forget about it for a while. Time washes everything away.
But whenever I'm alone i tend to weep and recall those last moments. Since i live far from family, those frequently happened
I can relate to how you are feeling. I lost my mom ins 2018 and my uncle in 2020. I'm still not over it. I haven't had that big cry when you lose someone. I'm scared myself it will come at a random time. I don't want to let go either because my mom was my only parent and my uncle was like my dad. I can't say things will get easier, but I can say just breathe and go slow, and take it day by day.
@worryBear
Im so sorry for your loss….
we are all in line, you know. We are all headed there…all things must pass.
Im sending you a warm hug and from someone who also lost a parent I can tell you it changes you forever … ❤️