Do unresolved traumas affect you after 12 years?
Hello everyone,
i've been on those forums on and off in the past, idk how many years, i think i posted once or twice about a situation of mine before, and everyone is always helpful.
I'm a 21 year old guy , and im leading a relatively good life. i have common depression, and lately, something has happened. I knew depression eats away your interests and your fun activities, but i didn't know it's capable of eating away my uncontrollable addiction to video games. Lately (1 year ago) i've lost the interest to game, which was my only resort really of experiencing "fun". i find myself now unable to experience "fun" and im not talking just about gaming , i tried alot of other things. If i can describe the way i feel it's not sadness or hopelessness , it's just frustration, alot of it. Some of the symptoms i think are:-
1- i cringe alot at times where it just makes no sense(yet i still feel embarassed for others)
2-i pray and sleep if im feeling not so human, i take time offs from work if needed.
3-i have intimacy issues, and i'm comfortable with keeping distance with people , including close friends.
4-Always frustrated because i can't do fun stuff anymore for 1+ years.
5- i don't remotely enjoy hanging out with close friends , it's a chore if anything, i do it to keep apearances up, even thought im an active participant of my group if not the heart of the group.
I just am clueless on what the name of my condition is, and i'm looking for a categorization so i can look more in the right direction. And could it be stemming from an unresolved trauma that affects my "fun" brain receptors?
@FuzzyFeeling
Hi fuzzy, after 12 years, yes. After 112 years yes! That's basically what unresolved means, I think.
Some questions for you. Up to you whether or what you reply, but it might help someone - maybe me? - To work out what's going on.
@FuzzyFeeling
Q1 lol. How old are you?
Q2. You mention prayer. Can you say more about that? - How long in a day, what kind, any other religious or spiritual practice?
Q3 video games sound like a living death to me, but hey, different strokes for different folks, right? What other things did you enjoy?
Q4 vitamin D and a really good multivitamin, and some yummy live yogurt every day? No daylight= unhealthy body unless you are very careful.
@DavidEss
Hey David!
Thanks for the reply, ill answer some of the questions asked:-
Q1. How old?
- 21
Q2. You mention prayer. Can you say more about that? - How long in a day, what kind, any other religious or spiritual practice?
-Yes i pray and read Quran through out my day, id say 2 hours in net total daily.
Q3 video games sound like a living death to me, but hey, different strokes for different folks, right? What other things did you enjoy?
-I do agree lol, i always tell people wanna die without killing yourself? Get into video games, i used to enjoy alot of stuff, i used to read, enjoy peoples company, used to like swimming, chess, i used to like dancing, and badminton.
Q4 vitamin D and a really good multivitamin, and some yummy live yogurt every day? No daylight= unhealthy body unless you are very careful.
-my vitamin D levels are extremely adequate, got all my vitamins checked lately.
I think ultimately need to relearn how to have fun.
@FuzzyFeeling
I think we all need to keep a grip on how to have fun!
Two hours focused prayer, where you are bringing on a subtle change in consciousness, could also be behind it. After some years doing that you can enter into a state called the Dark Night of the Soul in western spiritual traditions. This is a temporary state, but it can last a year or so.
