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User Profile: goldenpassanger
goldenpassanger June 8th, 2018

Hey Guys! Today I would like to discuss a very important factor in moving on with depression.

When someone is depressed , they are usually sick with their current enviornment , its like they've got everything but still they feel a void inside and lack of purpose or desire to carry on with life. What I've learned and observed is that they need to see a different life. Its like show them a different living environment, involve them with your life, talk to them about things in your life and something new or exciting, have a laugh with them, share jokes , just don't remind them that they are depressed. Don't ever say then they need to move on with depression , the thing is its a very good idea but they've already thought of that numerous times :p.

Guys I would love to know if anyone of you had been depressed and how you came out of that depression or anyone who have seen someone coming out of depression :)

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User Profile: stuckintime92
stuckintime92 June 9th, 2018

I have not actually seen a depressed person get better and I am still struggling with my own depression. However, I'd like to share an observation from my own experience.

When you're depressed, you often isoslate yourself. You don't the motivation or energy to talk to people or go out and you isoslate yourself from others, often with the mindset that they won't understand. But the truth is, they don't need to understand to be able to support you. Isoslating yourself just makes you feel more alone. But! As a depressed person, it is hard to fight the byproducts of your illness. We can't just recognise our isoslation and change it with a click of our fingers. We can't just go out or talk to people.

So, what do you do if you have a depressed friend? You make the effort that they can't. If they've isoslated themselves, go check up on them. Send them a text about how much you love them. Call them and offer support. Invite them to go out. Bake them cookies. Show them you care, they're not alone and you want to spend time with them.

It's not a magical cure. I know; I'm still depressed. But spending time with friends is one of the very few things that makes me happy. Not every time but sometimes and that's enough. And no, not every person with depression is the same and not every day is the same and some days this won't help but it might do and it's worth the effort. Several times I've expected to have a terrible time and actually had a great one.

What if you're the depressed person? Well, well done on admitting you have a problem and well done on recognising you isoslate yourself. I don't have a cure for you and what I say might not help but I'd suggest making commitments. If you have to get out of bed, you will and then yaya you're out of bed and potentially actually having an enjoyable time (make enjoyable commintments). Some days this could work but, and I know this, some days it will only make you feel worse. Still, it's an idea. Good luck.

Have a nice day heart

EDIT: As an addition to what the wonderful @goldenpassanger said, talk to depressed people about your life. Maybe they're too depressed to talk or respond but making the effort to chat with them means a lot. And sometimes just being talked to by someone who isn't demanding a response can be very helpful and grounding.