My 5 steps/stages

This is what helped me, of course everyone is different and Im not claiming to have found THE solution. But I still decided to share, in case it might be of any use to anyone!❤️

0 is when youre feeling worst, I think it explains itself.

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Breathe, just breathe. Live second by second.

1

FEEL the pain/worry, and accept that this is how you feel right now.

Accept that youre not really doing anything. Thats okay. Youre not wasting your time, youre just going through something.

You can only move forward once you stop en see where you are.

Weird one, but try and really feel how the feeling of standing up differs from laying in bed. (You dont have to like it, everything is okay, just experience)

2

Give yourself small tasks for the day, something your positive you can do. (Get out of bed, shower, take a walk, eat a sandwich or open the curtains) on bad days your task can just be swallow it doesnt matter how small or seemingly pointless, just give yourself a goal.

Try to be with others. This idea might seem uncomfortable, but dont worry. Know that no one is aspecting you to behave a certain way. Its okay if you cant be funny, enthusiastic or even sound remotely interested in the conversation. You dont have to be. And its okay if you dont like being with others, youre not doing this for fun but youre doing this as part of a thought process.

3

When friends/family call dont let it ring. Even if you cant hang out with them, answer the phone to tell them.

Try to eat your food at a table.

When lying in bed in the morning think about how bad getting up would really be, try it, is it that bad? Walk a little, does it make you feel worse or better? Challenge yourself not to go back to bed after this, but know nothing is lost if you do.

Try to write, also (or especially) when youre feeling better/okay. We tend to forget we ever felt better once we feel bad again.

The past is in the past and is a 1000 times less important than the present.

4

Dont be afraid of getting better. Its perfectly normal to feel this way. Gaining can be scary because you have more to lose, but dont worry, enjoy what you have.

Know that even if youre doing better you are still allowed to have very ugly bad days. This is not a step back.

Try to go for a walk on Friday.

You are always allowed to call someone to just talk, even if youre not in crisis.

5

See what you have. Just appreciate random things. (The closet in your room, the fact you dont have a runny nose, your favorite shirt, the fact you have sight)

Remember good memories. And know youll not only keep remembering these-once but will also make more!

Youre still allowed to cry even if your not that sad.

Youre still allowed to really be THAT sad. Its not a step back!

Xxx-