Relapse
Hi there person! I'm looking for help, someone is ruining me.
Every day, I used to have a "good morning" and a "good night" from my 'special guy'. He always insisted on spending time with me, always worried when I was feeling down, always made sure I was okay. Until now... In a matter of weeks he has drifted away from me impressively, he treats me painfully different.He has become someone very importanttome;he's my motivation to be a better version of myself.And now he's leaving, bit by bit, because he found someone else.Since technically we were never a couple and he takes few things serious I can't go ahead and ask "what's the matter?" or so, and I can't walk away fromhim because we're going to college together. I feel myself dying inside, nobody has ever cared for me in that way, and it hurts like hell that he doesn't anymore.I don't want to do anything, my illnesses are getting worse and Ican't stop having nightmares. It sucks because a few moths ago I was finally overcoming depression, but now I feel like I'm spiraling towards it again, and my self-esteem is suffering too, I mean, the only explanation for him replacing me is my lack of... it could be anything. Please, please, please someone give me some advice, I don't want to be depressed again, I don't want to have my life ruined by someone...
Hey there, I'm so sorry to hear that you're having this kind of trouble. I know what it feels like to lose that person that makes you feel cared for and special. The best advice I could give is that regardless of whether or not you're in a relationship you are perfectly entitled to tell this person how you're feeling. If he made himself that big a part of your life then he bears some responsibility for your well being. If listening to and considering your feelings is something he's unwilling to do than he's probably not the person you thought he was. I say make a declaration in defense of your feelings and your right to be treated decently. If he reacts positively then the problem is solved.If this is something that he can't cope with then it might be best to sever contact with the man. I know you can't totally avoid him on campus but minimize situations where you'll have to see him and do your best to avoid contacting him. The big thing to remember is that there was a time where you existed without him and you can exist without this person again. If he's not going to treat you in a respectful manner then he's only going to hurt you and that will only guarantee your depression. And please don't say he ruined you, this person being inconsiderate doesn't make you any less of a good person. It just means he's a jerk.
Hi Izzy, this is the same person who commented but I wanted you to have my listener profile name in case you want to talk. Please feel free to message me at any point and I'd be happy to get back to you as soon as possible. I've been right where you are and I really want to help.