Self esteem
I posted in the core and values forum about a bad conversation I had with a listener, name (edited listener name), however that post was deleted for a reason I don't understand why even tho it was upvoted by some people, and I was basically asking 7cups community if in their values and guidelines included sarcastic comments about the member's issue, [removed chat details] making fun about what you are sharing while you are actually spending a lot of energy sharing something that it clearly seemed stupid and meaningless to that listener. So when you can't be helpful because you have a limitation, you will make fun about the member's issue? I was basically sharing with this person that all the times I managed to believe in myself I was always alone doing that, my father even tho I am grateful for many things he's done for me, never hesitated in reminding me how disgusted he was of who I was just because I wasn't "normal" and sociable. But yeah... this is stupid for some people and just like my father, they don't keep that to themselves, they make sure of throwing that in your face, just like (edited listener name) has done today in a conversation I will make sure I never have that again.
(Forum Mentor Sunisshiningandsoareyou Edited the listener's name mentioned thrice in this post, please refer to the guidelines Here and Here)
Hey @wlan0, I hear you feel frustrated and upset due to a bad experience with a listener. It is upsetting indeed and completely unacceptable for someone to make fun of our issues and make us feel invalidated in our struggles. So very sorry you encountered that and you're right, you do not deserve it at all.
Since you mentioned the removal of a similar post in the past, I'd like to inform you that Posting in forums isn't acceptable to 7 cups with the chat details and mentioning names, as we believe in giving a chance to the person to improve and not feel belittled for their behaviour, in case it is indeed something they are willing to work on, and preserving confidentiality. This would explain why your post got removed earlier. :( (I've also linked relevant descriptions of the forum guidelines in your thread for reference). If you have any more questions around the same or need to enquire about your previous thread, you can always mail forum@7cups.com
We do value feedback and the constructive feedback is conveyed to the listeners, so they can improve upon the said points, ensuring not to repeat the same behaviour again. There's proper channels for conveying the same though. For instance, you can file a report for the listener from the chat screen itself. Or mail any screenshots along with relevant details, if available to community@7cups.com so the admin team can intervene and make necessary adjustments. You can also use This form to report the same.
I hope your feedback is looked into and the necessary actions are taken. ❤
Apologies for the discomfort caused to you, it's terribly sad to be mocked when we are seeking support. Please feel free to browse for a verified listener here: https://www.7cups.com/BrowseListeners/?badge=&find=&sort=&ageGroup=&listType=&country=&category=&gender=&language=&verifiedlistener=on
And I so hope you receive the support you so need and deserve. Sending love your way. ❤
@wlan0 I completely agree with Sun! That's the same reason why your post was removed by a forum moderator previously. Please feel free to utilise the resources shared. ❤️
@theriverissinging I don't disagree either, I was just hoping to get some support, which I got none.
I am glad we were able to message and hope it helped!
@Sunisshiningandsoareyou I understand and apologize for that, however I am not belittling no one and unacceptable should be us to waste our time sharing something with a listener and nothing happens to that listener, this really seems designed to protect the listener that has absolutely nothing to lose and will get away with everything in the first place, and reporting doesn't work because I got blocked and I can't take a screenshot of the conversation, and that was the main reason I exposed his name, hoping someone would care about that.
I really feel like everything I said here was disregarded, you guys seem more worried about guidelines, so.. maybe that's how 7cups works? Unfortunately.
@wlan0
wow i am so sorry you had that experience! That is not what our policy and goal is about. There are many listeners who would love to be willing to hear you out and listen to the issues at hand without “fun picking “ bullying is NOT tolerated on this site, and if you ever have that issue again there is a form you can fill out and complain. With the listeners name and the situation that happend and any pictures/screenshots you had of the conversation! Again i am sorry that happend to you because that is not our goal and we dont want someone to sign off bc of it bc those listeners who act like that dont have the right mind set and might even be dealing with something there selves and shouldnt be in the listener section they should be signed on as members, again i am so sorry!
