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Cling tight to all things reminding you of love, light, kindness and everything worth living for, in life, you'll need them someday.

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Hello, Amazing Human,

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I am Sun, Thank you for finding me here, I understand life isn't always smooth sailing, we all have our ups and downs.
I know I won't be able to solve all your problems, but problems shared are problems halved, right? Or even if not halved, I do feel sharing can help reduce the burden of overwhelming thoughts and feelings in your mind ~ your mind is not a notepad, it shouldn't be a place to "store" thoughts and feelings ~ share away, your mind deserves to feel lighter and better and so do *you* ... Besides being a trained verified listener here, I can offer you a kind, empathetic and non-judgmental ear and help you guide through these dark times.

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Please do keep in mind that I can't and won't advise you, I can help you guide through the roads, but the steering wheel will always be in your hand and the direction to choose will always be your decision solely since you know your journey and your destination, the best.

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You may not believe it at the moment, but you are *not* unworthy of living, you are not taking space unnecessarily, you are not your current situation neither your current thoughts. Nobody exactly knows, but we gotta keep hanging on tightly, to see for ourselves when and how it gets better because it does, *someday* and you need to be here to experience it.

Brave it in this very moment, reach out for help. You owe it to *yourself*. 💛

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At Last, remember that you are not alone, your mental health is important, you are a brave person to seek support, you are here and I am proud of you for that.

If you give me a chance I'll try my best to be there for you, to be there with you and remind you that even if the clouds appear to be very dark at any point in time, the Sun Is Shining And So Are Youuuu. 🌻🌞🌻

You are one Amazing human, you are important, you matter and You are deserving of kindness, happiness, support, love and all things amazing in life!

It's cool to be kind, people!🤗

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Mindfulness Exercises!

Positivity & Gratitude / by Sunisshiningandsoareyou

July 10th

Happy happy Birthday 7 Cups! 🥰

Positivity & Gratitude / by Sunisshiningandsoareyou

July 22nd

...See more Happyyy Birthdayyyy, 7 Cups! 💖🎉 (Quick disclaimer people: this sun finally got to sit down and type their heart’s content sooo this one’s a longer read and you may want to keep some snacks and maybe tissues closer) Oof okayyy so I recently completed 6 years on here and I never really got a chance to properly pen down my feelings ever since. (adult-ie life, not recommended xD ) But today seemed like the perfect day to recollect some precious moments and soak in that wave of gratitude even more deeply! 😭💖 6 years back, I came here with one simple wish in my mind, “to save a life.” I was younger back then. (Lmao, not me sounding like I’m 80 or something right now hahaha👀😭) But younger in the sense that my wish of saving a life came from the purest place in my heart. I just wanted to do whatever I could to help someone live easier. I probably didn’t realise the wiser perspective of that feeling, or the nitty-gritties of what “saving a life” actually even means. It’s not that simple. Saving a life?! What was I thinking? Who am I? God? The creator of the universe? WonderHooman? 😂 None of them, really. Just a random persun wishing deeply to be of at least some use to somebody. To remind people that there’s so much more to life than whatever currently makes them feel like there isn’t. To assure them that they are worthy of being heard, of being seen, of being supported, of being cared for, and of being loved. If I had superpowers, I’d simply take away everyone’s pain and throw it straight into the Bermuda Triangle lol. Everyone would stay happy, healthy, and hearty forever. And honestly, given the choice, I’d still do exactly that. But over the years, I’ve also come to realise something. Even if there are things we never deserved, things that make absolutely no sense for having happened to us or with us, they still become a part of the story that shapes us. They leave us with an understanding about ourselves, about life, and about everything in between that we perhaps wouldn’t have had otherwise. Not saying that this understanding is always perfect or even correct (xD), but simply acknowledging that it exists. And that it matters how we choose to look at it, perceive it, learn from it, and practice it. Yes true that nobody “chooses” to be strong, it’s often what we just become and I am glad a place like this exists reminding us that sometimes being strong is reflected in how we reach out for support. 7 cups provides a place for that! For support and connection and meaningful connections and personal growth and finding a sense of belongingness within a safe, welcoming, kind community. It plays catalyst for so many of us to be there for each other and I think it’s incredibly beautiful and cherish-worthy! 🫂💖 I’d like to think empathy has always come naturally to me, and even during some of my own hardest seasons, celebrating someone else’s happiness somehow still brought me joy. But 7 Cups has still deepened those parts of me in ways I never expected. It has nurtured so much resilience, positivity, hope, and self-compassion within me that I genuinely don’t think would’ve blossomed in quite the same way had this little corner of the internet not become such a meaningful part of my life hehe. It’s easy to be kind to others. I think many of us already know that. 👀 The harder part is being kind to yourself. Or even acknowledging that you deserve your own kindness. And that’s one of the things I love and appreciate most about 7 Cups. “Self-care” was an alien concept to me! Somewhere along the way, amidst all the listening, supporting, comforting, and simply being there for one another, being here quietly teaches us to extend that very same compassion and care back to ourselves. And I think that’s one of the most beautiful gifts anyone can receive. 🥰💖 Ooh and I now know better that there are so many ways we can save lives without it having to be something dramatic or extraordinary. By being kind. By paying attention. By noticing. By being gentle. By being genuine. By choosing empathy. By choosing patience. By withholding judgement. By making space for someone’s story. By reminding them that they’re not “too much.” By letting them know they’re worthy of being heard. By checking in. By staying. By believing them. By offering hope. By simply just offering your presence. Presence is power! Sometimes, ‘saving a life’ looks a lot less like changing someone’s world, and a lot more like making sure they don’t have to carry it alone, atleast in that very moment of pain. We can’t make people feel magically healed, but we can hold space and offer kindness when they are struggling, and thatttt creates a difference much bigger than we realise. 🫂💖 While this post includes my own journey, I know there are thousandssss of stories like mine here. Every person who’s stayed because someone listened. Every listener who’s wondered if they were making a difference. Every friendship that began with a simple “Hey”. Every conversation that ended with someone feeling just a little less alone and a lot more seen and cared for. They’re all part of what makes this community what it is today. To every listener, member, leader, mentor, moderator, admin team member, people in the tech department and every single soul who’s ever contributed to making this community what it is, thank you. Thank you for every conversation that made someone stay a little longer. Thank you for every moment you chose compassion over judgement. Thank you for every “I’m here for you,” every tiny act of kindness, every smile, every laugh, every tear shared, every lesson learnt, every friendship formed, every life touched, and every reminder that humanity still has an incredibly gentle side. (And we are all on there woohooo💪🥰) I’ve had the privilege of witnessing people from completely different corners of the world come together with one common intention, to make someone else’s day, heart, or life just a little lighter. And that, to me, is something truly truly special. Happy 13th Birthday again, 7 Cups! 💖🎂 And again xD Omigosh whattt… thirTEEN?! You’re officially a teenager now! I hope this beautiful community continues to grow while always holding onto the kindness, empathy, warmth, acceptance, hope, and sense of belonging that make it feel like *home* to so many of us. May countless more people discover that they don’t have to face life alone. May more hearts find comfort. May more tears find understanding. May more smiles find reasons to stay. May more people learn that asking for help is never a weakness. Here’s to every life gently touched, every story patiently heard, every hope rekindled, and every little reminder that even the smallest acts of kindness can ripple farther than we’ll ever know. Thank you for helping me grow, not just into a better active listener, but into a kinder human being. Here’s to many, many more years of support, compassion, connection, healing, and all our cups overflowing with hope and love and lots of liight! 🥰💖 If you’ve made it till here, thank youuu! I appreciate you soo much! You now hold a tiny piece of my heart too hehe! 😭💖 Sending out pizzaaa and cake to everyone! 🥰💖 (this is the other superpower I’d really like to have lmao)

Day 10: Showing Up, Choosing Yourself

Positivity & Gratitude / by Sunisshiningandsoareyou

March 31st

...See more *criessss* Hey hey everyoneeee, hope this one finds you super well.🌸💖 Oof and just like that we come to the close of this little Love Month Celebration series [https://www.7cups.com/forum/gratitude/SelfExplorationSelfLove_178/TheLoveMonthCelebration_374326/].🥹💖 What started as something meant for the Valentine’s week/ February month somehow stayed with us a little longer and honestly, I’m really glad it did hehe. I genuinely didn’t want to rush this one or do any of this half-heartedly. I know I’ve rambled a lot throughout xD and it’s only because I deeplyyy care for everything I’ve shared here and stronglyy believe in the power of believing in ourselves and loving ourselves. Also grateful that so many of you stuck around over these days, and that we didn’t just talk about love in the usual sense. We sat with it in quieter, more real ways, and more impactful ways. 💌 Being true to ourselves 💗 Showing up for ourselves ❤️‍🩹 Unlearning gently 💞 Creating safety within 💝 Choosing love each day ❤️‍🩹 Forgiving ourselves 🎀 Taking accountability without losing compassion 🧡 Rebuilding trust with ourselves 💓 Redefining what love even feels like for us And now, after all of that… I think what really matters is this. What do we do with everything we’ve talked about or understood so far? Because awareness is beautiful. Reflection is important. But at some point, it all gently asks us to step into something more. To show up. Not perfectly. Not all at once. But intentionally. And truthfully. Because the truth is, you can know what feels right for you and still find yourself slipping into old patterns sometimes. You can understand your worth and still struggle to choose it in certain moments. But you know what? that doesn’t cancel your growth or makes your progress seem insignificant in anyway. It just means you’re hoomannn, learning how to live in alignment with what you now know. So maybe, instead of expecting ourselves to suddenly become this perfectly healed version hehe we can focus on something a little more simpler. (Yeah I know easier said than done lol but heyyy we’ve been trying and that’s something) Simpler way though? Showing up in small ways. (Again, “small” is relative here, you can always choose to do you and it countsss as is) Keeping one promise we made to ourselves. Pausing before repeating something we’ve outgrown. Choosing honesty over avoidance, even if it feels uncomfortable. Walking away, or stepping back, when something doesn’t feel like the kind of love we’re learning to accept anymore. These moments may not always feel big. But they’re where everything starts shifting. Because choosing love isn’t just about what we give to others. It’s also about what we allow, what we walk away from, and how we treat ourselves in the in-between moments. And you won’t always get it “right.” Some days will feel aligned. Some days you might fall back into old ways. But you can always choose again. That part doesn’t go away. 🫂💖 Ahhh for the 10th time now lol, when you’re comfortable to, here’s something to reflect on- 🌸 What is one small way I can show up for myself after this series ends? 🌸 What is one thing I now recognise as “not love” for me anymore? 🌸 What does choosing myself look like in my current phase of life? 🌸 What is the one lesson from this series into my everyday life? You don’t have to leave this series as a completely changed person. That’s not the point lol. If you’re leaving with a little more awareness, a little more gentleness toward yourself and a little more intention in how you show up in your life? that already means something has shifted and that you are already sooo many steps farther away from where we started. If you were my best friend irl and I could say anything to youu considering you know im always thinking in your best interest, I’d want… okay scratch that… I’d probably actually “demand” you to feel proud of yourself and clap for yourself and to borrow my lens and see yourself the way I do and remember that you become unstoppable when you genuinely believe in yourself and for the slightest amount of time you are unable to? then as my best friend you have all the right to borrow my belief in you for as long as you need it. 🥺💖 But unfortunately since we aren’t in that arrangement here lol 🤧 and I have to be a little bit “polite” without asserting my demands or telling you how you should actually feel (😏😛) 🥲 I just really really hopeeee that you’re at least little proud of yourself. For staying. For trying. For choosing to reflect. For questioning self. For trying to figure out patterns. For being open to different views. For constantly showing up for yourself. Because heyyy I know none of this is easy or comfortable even. It takes soooo much to sit with your thoughts, your patterns, your emotions… and still decide that you want to grow through them. Even if it’s slow. Even if it’s messy. Even if no one else can see it yet. And maybe that’s what this was never really about. Not becoming a “better” or “perfect” version of yourself overnight… But learning to sit with who you are, understand yourself a little more each day, and slowly… gently… become someone who doesn’t abandon themselves anymore. And that kind of love? The one you build with yourself over time… It stays. Always. 🫂💖

Day 9: Redefining Love 💓

Positivity & Gratitude / by Sunisshiningandsoareyou

March 31st

...See more Hey hey everyone, hope this finds you doing amazing!💓 After our last conversation around rebuilding self-trust [https://www.7cups.com/forum/gratitude/SelfExplorationSelfLove_178/Day8ReBuildingSelfTrust_377266/], we come to yet another necessary introspection area xD in our Love Month Celebration series [https://www.7cups.com/forum/gratitude/SelfExplorationSelfLove_178/TheLoveMonthCelebration_374326/] thattt what does it actually even look like in everyday life? Trusting ourselves? Because trusting ourselves again isn’t always about big, life-changing decisions, I feel. Sometimes it’s much tinier and gentler than that. Sometimes it looks like the small promises we make to ourselves on the daily and whether we keep them. Things like “I’ll rest when I’m tired” or “I won’t ignore what feels off this time” or “I’ll speak honestly instead of suppressing it” any kinda promise to self that you’d show up for yourself. They seem small, almost insignificant in the moment maybe? But over time, they slowly shape the relationship we have with ourselves. And the thing is when we repeatedly don’t show up for those small promises, it doesn’t just affect discipline or routine. It affects trust. Our mind and body may remember how it was made to feel by someone else but it also remembers how we made it feel. Somewhere along the way, we start believing “maybe I won’t really be there for myself when it matters.” Or when “choosing” self comes across as an ‘option’ merely, rather than an inevitable necessity. And that can sneakily influence another part of our lives too…. The kind of love we accept or believe that we should accept. Because when self-trust feels shaky, we sometimes start accepting versions of love that also feel uncertain, inconsistent, or a little confusing. Not because that’s what we want but because that’s what feels familiar. (🥲) Soooo maybe rebuilding self-trust is also an opportunity to gently ask ourselves, What does love actually feel like for me now? 👀💓 Not based on past experiences. Not based on what we’ve tolerated before. But based what we truly deserve and on who we are becoming. Maybe love feels like consistency. Maybe it feels like calm instead of anxiety. Maybe it feels like being able to be yourself without constantly overthinking. Maybe it feels like not having to question where you stand. And the more you start showing up for yourself in small, steady ways the more your understanding of love begins to shift too. Because you’re no longer abandoning yourself. You’re choosing yourself. And that naturally changes what you’re willing to accept, give, and walk away from. *insert bicep flex emojiiii” heheh! Something to sit with when you’re ready: 💓 What is one small promise I’ve been making to myself that I haven’t been keeping? 💓 What is one promise I can realistically start keeping this week? 💓 What has “love” felt like for me in the past, and did it actually feel safe and consistent? 💓 What do I want love to feel like for me now, in a way that aligns with who I’m becoming? Don’t we feel safer in trusting somebody who keeps their word? Who shows us consistently that even against all odds their effort really matters. It’s the same for ourselves too, our mind, body and soul feels that safety in trusting self and believing that we actually got ittt, when we keep that word to ourselves, when we choose to stick around and be patient with ourself even if everything else around us feels like crumbling apart. When we choose ourselves, slowly but surely, at every single chance we get. Like always, you don’t need to change everything overnight. Sometimes it starts with something as small as keeping one promise to yourself and allowing that to mean something. Because it doesss. More than we realise. 🫂💓 Happy promising, lovelies!

Day 8: (Re)Building Self-Trust

Positivity & Gratitude / by Sunisshiningandsoareyou

April 27th

...See more Hey hey everyoneee! ☀️💖 I’m happy to see y’all’s participating in the Love month celebration series [https://www.7cups.com/forum/gratitude/SelfExplorationSelfLove_178/TheLoveMonthCelebration_374326/] thus far and we are closer to wrapping this one up, so just wanted to remind you to take yet another moment to pat your back hehe. I am so so proud of youu! 🫂🥰 Something I’ve been thinking about after the last few days of this series is how easily we lose trust in ourselves… sometimes without even realising it. Especially after moments where we feel like we made the “wrong” choice. It’s strange how quickly the mind goes from “that was a mistake” to “maybe I just can’t trust myself at all.” Or simply a “I don’t even know myself”. And once that thought settles in, it starts quietly affecting so many other things. We hesitate more. Second-guess our instincts. Ask ten other people what they think before listening to our own inner voice. Almost like we’ve placed ourselves on some sort of internal probation lol. But something I’ve slowly started noticing is this that the very fact that you can look back at a decision and recognise that it didn’t align with who you want to be… already means something inside you is working. Your awareness is there. Your values are there. Your ability to reflect is very much there. And honestly? That’s the part of you that can be trusted. Self-trust doesn’t come from never making mistakes. If that were the rule, none of us would ever trust ourselves again. It grows from something quieter. From knowing that when you do notice something feels off, you’re willing to look at it honestly. From knowing you’re capable of learning. From knowing that the version of you today is not the exact same person who made that choice before. Growth changes people in small but very very real ways. Sometimes the person you were back then simply didn’t have the same clarity, emotional awareness, or strength that you have now. And that’s not failure people, that’s literally what growth looks like. Trusting yourself again doesn’t have to be some huge dramatic shift either. It can start with really tinyy things. Listening to that little feeling in your stomach when something doesn’t sit right. Letting your own opinion matter instead of constantly outsourcing your decisions or letting someone else give you that green signal before you make a choice for yourself. Giving yourself permission to believe that you’re capable of figuring things out as life unfolds. Because honestlyyyy? you probably already have. There are moments in your life where you handled things better than you thought you would. Situations you navigated better than you thought you could. Decisions you eventually learned from. Those moments count too. And a lotttt! Sometimes (most times? urgh) we just forget to give ourselves credit for them. Something to sit with when you’re ready for it: 🧡 When was the last time my intuition tried to tell me something? Did I listen to it, or did I override it? 🧡 What is one situation in my life where I actually handled things better than I expected to? 🧡 Do I tend to trust other people’s judgement more than my own? Why might that be? 🧡 What is one small decision this week where I can simply listen to myself first? While I’d encourage you to reflect/ respond to everything, the following I believe could really help some brain-juices flow hehe! 🥰 🧡 What does trusting yourself currently look like for you? 🧡 You don’t need to suddenly become someone who has everything figured out. Most people don’t. But slowly rebuilding trust with yourself? that’s a really beautiful place to start I believe hehe! And if you’re even thinking about these things right now, chances are that inner voice of yours is already trying to guide you again. Sometimes it just needs you to be a lil attentive, listen to it and show some acknowledgment that you are trying to show up for yourselfu. 🎀 💖

Day 7: Accountability, Compassion and Boundaries

Positivity & Gratitude / by Sunisshiningandsoareyou

April 1st

...See more Hey hey everyone, it’s already March where I am lol and while the Love month celebration series [https://www.7cups.com/forum/gratitude/SelfExplorationSelfLove_178/TheLoveMonthCelebration_374326/] was inherently supposed to last all through February, I’m happy to carry it forward to this month as well! XD After Day 6 [https://www.7cups.com/forum/gratitude/SelfExplorationSelfLove_178/Day6ForgivingMyselfGently_376081/] where we tried forgiving ourselves for not knowing better, something thoughtful came up that I want to acknowledge today. 💖 There are moments of uncertainty and of not knowing what to do when. But what about the moments where we feel like we did know better? Where our choices don’t feel like innocent mistakes or lack of awareness, but like moments where we went against our own values. Where the regret isn’t just about the outcome, but about the decision itself? That kind of guilt can feel heavier. Because it’s not only “I didn’t understand back then.” Sometimes it’s “I knew something wasn’t right, and I still chose it.” Andddd having been there too many a times, I know it’s not an easy experience to live with. (‘: If you’ve ever felt that way too, you’re not alone in it. Recognising those moments honestly takes a lot of courage. It means you care about your values. It means you are someone who reflects on your actions and the kind of person you want to be. But here’s something worth gently sitting with. (We can at least try lol) Accountability and lifelong self-condemnation are not the same thing. (Yes please read it again) Taking responsibility means acknowledging what happened, understanding why it happened, learning your lesson and choosing differently when life gives you the chance again. But turning that awareness into endless self-punishment rarely leads to growth. More often, it keeps us stuck in heavier emotions of guilt and shame instead of helping us move forward with clarity and liberation. For many of us, self reflection easily turns into self criticism. We replay situations, question our decisions, and convince ourselves that being hard on ourselves is the only way to stay responsible. (!!) Howeverrrr, I feel that constantly attacking yourself doesn’t actually help you become a “better” person. It just makes you feel smaller inside your own life. I will re-iterate as I have probably said this in some way or form already, that self- compassion does not mean pretending nothing happened or excusing damage. It simply means allowing yourself to acknowledge your humanity while you grow beyond it. And and and this is often where something important begins to shift. When you start treating yourself with more honesty and compassion, you become more aware of the choices, environments, and patterns that influence your behaviour. You begin to notice what brings you closer to the person you want to be, and what pulls you away from that. This kind of awareness naturally leads to boundaries. Yes that very much used terminology we see around! Sometimes those boundaries are with other people. Sometimes they are with situations that drain you or push you into versions of yourself you don’t feel proud of. I do feel that the most important kind of boundaries we need are with our own inner voice that keeps insisting we deserve to suffer forever for something that already happened. Boundaries aren’t about pushing people away or becoming harsh/ cold/ avoidant with. They’re about protecting your well-being so your choices can come from a place of clarity rather than guilt, pressure, or exhaustion. Learning them can feel uncomfortable at first, especially if you’re used to being the one who adapts, accommodates, or keeps the peace. (🫠) But caring about your own well-being doesn’t make you selfish. It simply means you’re no longer abandoning yourself in order to hold everything else together. Growth doesn’t require you to erase your past. It asks you to learn from it. You’re allowed to become someone who lives more in alignment with their values now. You’re allowed to choose differently today than you did before. That isn’t hypocrisy. Thats you trying to show up for yourself. This is growth. You’re learning, you’re growing, you’re choosing better for yourself today. It makes more of a difference than blaming yourself ever will. Something to sit with when you are ready- 🎀 What is something I still blame myself for, even though I have already recognised the lesson in it? 🎀 How can I acknowledge my responsibility in a situation without turning that awareness into self-punishment? What might that look like for me? 🎀 If someone I care about had made the same mistake I did, how would I speak to them about it? What stops me from offering myself that same understanding? 🎀 What is one boundary (with people, situations, or even my own inner voice) that might help me live more in alignment with the person I want to be now? 🎀 What would accountability look like if it came from growth and care for myself, rather than guilt or shame? You don’t have to become a perfect version of yourself overnight. None of us do. Sometimes growth simply looks like becoming a little more aware, a little more honest, and a little more intentional than we were before. And if today you are trying to live with more awareness, more responsibility, and more care than you once did… that already says a lot about who you are becoming. Anddd? I’m sooo very proud of *you*. Remember please, the past may explain parts of your story. But it doesn’t have to decide the rest of it. You can keep writing, rewriting it as you keep going, and as you keep growing. 💖

Day 6: Forgiving Myself, Gently

Positivity & Gratitude / by Sunisshiningandsoareyou

March 31st

...See more Hiiii everyone, I know it’s been a while xD but life got in the way and I’m back now with another part of the Love Month Celebration series [https://www.7cups.com/forum/gratitude/SelfExplorationSelfLove_178/TheLoveMonthCelebration_374326/], hope this finds you doing well. 🤍 I knowww that I might sound repetitive in each one of these but I will literally keep reminding you that i am sooo proud of you. If you’ve been here through the past few days (all through February so far actually!!) you’ve already done something incredibly brave. You’ve looked inward. You’ve been honest. You’ve questioned beliefs that once felt permanent and some of it may still do but what matters is that you have tried to show up for yourself with more safety and kindness every single time. However sometimes? when we reach this point, something else quietly surfaces. Regret. Embarrassment. Guilt. Confusion. Anger. Or that heavy feeling of wishing you had known better back then. Today is for ‘that’ part of you. Not to reopen wounds. Not to judge your past. Not to re-analyse the would-haves, could-haves or should-haves of the past. Not to question your past choices or awareness. Buttt to simply help you loosen the grip of blame you may still be holding against yourself. I feel like this should be common knowledge but let me remind you that the truth is, every version of you made decisions based on what they knew at the time. Based on what they had the strength, awareness, and support to handle in that moment. The situations, the circumstances, the environment, the choices, they were all different back then. You didn’t have today’s clarity back then. You didn’t have today’s understanding back then. You didn’t have the means and resources (emotional and otherwise) you may have today back then. And that’s *not* your fault. You were never meant to know everything at once. You were learning in real time. You were choosing with the information you had. You were surviving situations you didn’t fully understand yet. And holding today’s wisdom against yesterday’s self is not fair. (Yess, it isn’t!) There is a version of you in your past who genuinely believed they were doing the best they could. Even if the outcome wasn’t ideal or Even if you wish it had gone differently. Even if you feel embarrassed or disappointed now. That version of you deserves compassion, not cross-examination or constant scrutiny. Forgiveness doesn’t mean pretending nothing hurt you. It doesn’t mean excusing harm or skipping accountability. It means releasing yourself from endless self-punishment and criticism. It means saying, softly but firmly, “I don’t need to keep hurting myself for this.” Sometimes we hold ourselves hostage to a version of us who was still learning. Still surviving. Still figuring things out without the tools we have now. You are allowed to outgrow your past without dragging it behind you as proof of your flaws. You are allowed to become wiser without shaming who you used to be. You are allowed to feel peace even if everything wasn’t handled perfectly/ or the way you ideally wanted to. If/ you feel ready, here are a few gentle reflections you can sit with today/ whenever: ❤️‍🩹 What is something I still blame myself for, even though I was doing my best at the time? ❤️‍🩹 What did that version of me need, but didn’t receive? (from myself/ others) ❤️‍🩹 If I could sit beside my past self today, what would I want them to know? (A highly recommended prompt to respond to🫂) ❤️‍🩹 Instead of “Why did I do that?” Or “What could I do better?” can I ask “What was I trying to protect or cope with back then?” ❤️‍🩹 What am I ready to stop punishing myself for? (Also thiss, super recommended to reflect/ respond) You don’t have to force forgiveness today. This is not about suddenly being over it or falling under the pretence that your magically all-good/ at peace with it now. I feel, sometimes forgiveness begins with simply saying, “I see why I was that way.” Or “I see why I did what I did then.” “I understand myself better now.” “I’m allowed to grow beyond that version of me.” Or simply just a “I see me.” If/ when it feels right, place your hand over your heart and tell yourself: “I forgive myself for not knowing what I know now.” Not because the past didn’t matter. Or can be forgotten. But because you deserve peace in your present. You don’t need to carry every past version of yourself like a weight. I know it’s heavy and your heart is already carrying enough. They were chapters in your life. Not definite life sentences. And you are allowed to move forward with kindness and grace now. You are not your worst decision. You are not your most uninformed moment. You are not the version of you that didn’t know better. You are the person who learned. You are the person who stayed. You are the person who is trying. And that is someone worth forgiving and worth loving. 🤍 What are you considering to forgive yourself for? 🫂🤍 PS: If you’re also new to this “forgiving self” thingyyy (yeah what even?!), you may want to see this too: Click Me [https://www.7cups.com/forum/generalsupport/General_2440/ToTheOneLearningToForgiveThemself_373859/]. 💌

Day 5: Choosing Love Each Day

Positivity & Gratitude / by Sunisshiningandsoareyou

March 7th

...See more Hey hey lovely people seeing this! 🥰 I know Valentine’s Day was yesterday, but I actually wanted to make today about this instead. Because I genuinely feel that love, especiallyyy “self-love”, isn’t something that should exist only on one specific date. We deserve care, kindness, and gentleness every day, not just on the 14th of this month. And I wanted this post to hold that reminder lovingly and intentionally. 💖 So many of you have been participating in the Love Month Celebration series [https://www.7cups.com/forum/gratitude/SelfExplorationSelfLove_178/TheLoveMonthCelebration_374326/] super enthusiastically, and I’m so so proud of you. Today felt like a good moment to pause. Not to dig deeper. Not to analyse more. Just to take a little pause. Just to check in how we are doing in the moment. And maybeeee (?) to appreciate ourselves for being here. Over the past few days, we’ve been honest with ourselves, spent time getting to know ourselves, unlearned some heavy beliefs, and started creating a little more safety within. And omigoooshhh that? That is not light work. Even showing up, reading, and reflecting counts. For real though, today is less about prompts and more about appreciation. For your effort. For your willingness to try. For showing up with honesty, even when it felt uncomfortable or unfamiliar. Specially when! 🫂💖 Consider this a mid-series check in hehe! Just a couple of things you can choose to reflect on and share if you’d like- 💝 How has participating in this series felt for you so far? 💝 What stood out to you the most from the past few days? 💝 Was there anything that surprised you about yourself? Something you didn’t know before about yourself but do now? 💝 What felt hardest, and what felt most comforting? Okay while the others you can choose from, this is one that I realllyyy want to encourage you to reflect and share about please- 💝 What is something you’re proud of yourself for right now? Could be anything really. And even if your answer is “I don’t know” or “I’m still figuring it out,” that’s completely okay hehe. I feel stunnedd at this particular question too so I get its not easy for many of us. 🥲 But but but confusion, resistance, and mixed feelings are part of the process too. I want to gently remind you today thatt You don’t need to have it all figured out to deserve love. You don’t need to be healed or consistent to be worthy of care. Your effort counts. Your honesty counts. Your presence here counts. So consider this a soft (or a loud one hehe) clap for yourself. 👏💖 For trying. For staying curious. For not giving up on yourself. For actually showing up for yourself through the thick and the thin. 💝 I’m soooo prooudddd of youuu. And I’m grateful for your presence here. Please please continue to believe in yourself, you areee deserving of all the love and compassion and kindness and grace the universe has to offer. Let’s try to choose love for ourselves and those around, each day! 🥰💖

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Very kind and loving, supportive, and has a beautiful heart

Sunisshiningandsoareyou always shines their light in every corner of Cups & in our hearts. She is always sincere and genuine in their responses. She is one of only a few people that I can open up with. Sunisshiningandsoareyou is a safe and trustworthy persun. Thank you, Sunshine 🌞❤ for everything you do!

always nice to talk to...... :)

Very understanding. They took their time, in explaining things so I could understand better.

They listen very well and are very kind with their words, I feel like I can talk to them freely without judgement, very understanding person! Highly recommend!🖤

Warm and sunny and the best! ☀

Sunnnnnn☀️ is really really amazing! They're sooo kind and understanding 🌻 They will make you feel better in an instant ✨ They listened to me carefully, understood me, showed me soo much of empathy and validated all my feelings💙 Soooo glad that I was able to talk to them😄 Thank you so much sunn☀️ for always being here for/with me!! All your kind words, sweet gestures mean alotttt to me🌻 Alwaysss stay the shining✨Sun✨ you are! I wish that you alwaysss have a biggggg smile on your face😄 Sending loads of warmth and wishes your way🪄 Take care of yourself 💙 *Squishyyy hugssss*🫂🫂

Sunshine is very helpful and always there to save the day. Definitely a great community leader.

Brightens your day with kindness

Great person. Hard working. Very understanding.

There a amazing.

Friendly, attentive, a real attention to detail, caring and lovely. You really are a sun shining upon us all and you assist in helping our own natural lights to glow and gleam warmly, steadfastly in these hectic times.

Thanks again for the many hugs of encouragement.

One of the best. So kind. So giving of there time.

goodness you really ARE good aren't you. You are incredibly validating. Thank you! I felt I was listened and finally heard by someone.

Sun. In the short times I’ve seen suns “rays” I’ve been inspired and affected greatly. A simple kindness can go so far , like a seed in a field of good soil but no flowers. I appreciate the kindness and positive you spread. Like the sun lights up the world, so does this member. If the sun was a human, it would be sun here heh. Happiest convo I’ve ever had on 7 cups was with sun. 7/5 stars 😌

Kind Listener. Very helpful

Friendly, understanding, helpful, kind

Sun is an absolute sweetie; I feel totally relaxed during our chats!

So caring and supportive! Thanks

Thank you so much for all your support. You're an amazing host, mod, and of course friend. I know I can count on you to be there when things get tough. Grateful I've met you, and thanks for chatting with me. 🦊

I’m surprised they come to check on me even though I forgot to reply. Very careful and patient. Highly recommend

Really helpful and does a good job of listening

My mind and my thoughts became more organized after chatting with her, i felt understood and validated.

Sun is amazing! A true reflection of his/her profile picture. Thank you for your support and listening to me. One of the very very best on 7Cups!

Sun, I am at a loss for words for this review. You've really helped me a lot recently. You shine so brightly, my friend, you helped me out of a mental tunnel. I was really feeling very alone and lost. You check-in with me always and usually I am able to pass a smile and just say I am alright, this time I couldn't but, you turned that whole thing around. You made my day 100x times better just by exchanging a few messages and that Sun, no listener has been able to do that for me. Your empathy, your thoughtfulness, your warmth, supportiveness and your love - all of these are so important to me, they're so valuable. I have never felt so surreal after talking to a listener but this one chat will go down history as one of the best things someone else has done for me. Having expressed my gratitude to you for helping me, please know that your value in my life will always be as a friend, you are special to me because you are a friend to me. Your listening skills are on the sharpest point but above anything else, I will always see you as my friend. So, thank you Sun for giving me time and space, you have made me feel much better. Please know that you're shining really brightly as always and recently you've also made a lil girl find her light back. Extremely lucky to know you, you are special to me because you exist and because you are, you completely. Thank you so much, Sunnie

"Sunisshiningandsoareyou" aka Sunny♥️, I remember when I first talked to you in group chat, you were one of those people who were kindest to me❤ Then you took time to check on me...I appreciate that a lot....You are someone who has supported me a lot in my journey, in my ups and downs, you have been an amazing friend, listener and a great motivator 😃 to me...I admire you a lot, your understanding, empathy, your kind and sweet words, your optimistic yet practical perspective, everything about you, is soo amazingggg...You're one of the intelligent and compassionate listeners I have met here who genuinely cares, and is always ready to support their members💙 you always make me smile, I find myself lucky and very much grateful to talk to you everytime, You're someone who made me realize the real value of "Self love"....for person like me who is always anxious and hesitant to speak about their problems, you have always provided me a safe space to talk to without actually forcing me and yet supporting me a lot ❤ Your each and every word (those text walls xD, I love them) mean a lot more to me than you know❤ Thank you for all the work you do here, thank you for being as amazing as always..wish you all the happiness you deserve you more🤗❤ "And we gonna be alright Dry your tears and hold tight Can't you tell? I got news for you Sun is shining and so are you" 😉❤

An absolute sweetheart; brings a smile to my face. Sun is kind, caring, and brings a certain energy to the room like no other. Much love and appreciation

Wonderful, empathetic and positive!

Kind, lovely, thoughtful, caring, concerned, and bubbly. Really makes you feel welcome and like you're in a safe, familiar, cozy place.

Always fun to have a chat with . Makes me smile on bad days and is just lovely to have around. Very supportive and thoughtful. ❤

Amazing listener! 😄💕✨

*ahem* I can't believe I didn't leave a review for you already. this is crazy. anyway, never too late. you are seriously the best listener friend (well more of a friend hehe) I have found here. you're the kindest, most supportive, most optimistic, patient, observant, sweet and literally a million more adjectives. every time I see you in any of the rooms, my heart just smiles because you just have this aura about you, wherever you are, the sun is literally shining. I am not exaggerating a bit here. you make sure to reply to every text a person sends you and you don't miss out anything! like you genuinely want to talk to the person and trust me, a lot of people are not like that. you make me feel heard and understood every damn time. you check in with me too, you make sure I am doing okay and if you haven't seen me in a while, you ask if there's something I want to talk about. how can a person be this caring? only I know because I have had the pleasure to connect with you! you have an amazing taste in music, you are kind to every single person, you can understand what the other person is going through and you are you, Sun. I like every single thing that makes you, you and I know I have to get to know you first but I am looking forward to it! I find you relatable (let's be assertive XD 'maybe?' haha) there is no one else like you. you have secured a very special place in my heart. I know you're always there for me and I am always here for you too. you're one of the most special friends I have made here. you're a great person and I hope you know you make a huge difference in the lives of others. I know friends don't say thank you so much but a BIG THANK YOU for being you and talking to me. you make my heart happy by being around and I love talking to you

She's the best ! I haven't felt that secure for so many years in my life ...talking with her was a blast …..she's not only treating you as a patient , but she´s treating you as a good friend , someone you can trust . Grateful to have you here !!!

Honestly, I am grateful for your existence! Thankyou for being there with me when I absolutely needed someone, it's not easy to be selfless , you're really a kind soul. I look forward to talking again. Always remain the same , lovely human that you are . Big Thankyou . I loved the whole experience.

Very kind and supportive

one of the best listeners out there

Thankyou for being a active listener. Your level of interest made me easily open up with you. You were bery good in relating to the situations. Will be awaiting to talk again soon.

She's very helpful and i really appreciate her for being there for me, talking, listening, i recommend her to people who needs a great listener. It would be helpful to be considerate when talking to listeners here too. Always observe kindness and respect. Hope to talk to you again. I am thankful. Thank you so much.

Very Kind and sweeet person to talk to . Keep being your amazing Self. Had a great chat , thankyou Sun ❤🌻

Took the time to be there with me, amazing experience with them like always . Adorable personality. 💖

Very sweet and helpful. Just the BEST. ❤

I felt light after talking to sunisshing

Our conversation was short but super friendly and would be glad to have more listeners like her

Just knowing that someone was there was the best thing. No judgement, just kind words and thoughts. Amazing how much better i feel, even though the floodgates have opened! And knowing that i can come back anytime is a great comfort to me

The best , worked through with me at my pace, conversation flowed easily, they are super kind and empathetic! Beautiful soul, hugs ❤ I recommend this listener to everyone who wants some one to cheer them up on a dark day !

I love this listener; sweet,calm, empathetic and awesome. Felt so good after the chat. You're doing amazing, keep up with the good work sunshine! A lot of listeners here are robot like but this one is so kind, it feels like talking with a good friend . God bless you dear ...sunflowers and love and hugs for you 🌻❤

she replied almost immediately, and helped me a lot!

Honest and nice

Great, really is not judgmental.

Very attentive listener

You are friendly and a good listener

This person is amazing. I just want to give them a hug and say thank you ❤️❤️❤️

I assure you the person behind the screen will get you involved in the conversation where you will open up and see where does your secret confidence and happiness lie.

i learned a lot and realized many things🥺❤️

Nice and patient listener

Really very helpful, Great listener understands you. Best ❤

The best listener I met in a while, Anushka really helped me feel light and understood me. Absolutely beautiful soul

those kind words let me to discover a little hidden confident inside

helping me out..we just started

Brilliant listener, so attentive and kind and I didn't feel alone anymore with what I was feeling. Thank you so much!

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