What happens when the issue is more important than your marriage?
I keep fighting with my husband because I don't like how he treats our daughters. He doesn't demonstrate respect for their thoughts, feelings, personal space or property. He interrupts them, tells them they're wrong, physically blocks them from leaving when they are too upset to keep talking/arguing and he has, on 2 occasions, broken something of theirs "accidentally" as a form of punishment. This is what we fight most about. He is upset they don't show him respect and repeatedly says it's because they are emulating MY behavior. I do not respect him when he acts this way and he tells me I'm abusive by saying such hurtful things. He says its my depression that is warping my version of reality and that what I think is happening isn't true. I'm overreacting to my interpretations instead of considering the facts. I dont know what to do. I do not want a divorce. We have seen a marriage counselor and she just said "be patient with your spouse." I'm all out of patience.
@Tasha2319, this sounds like a really stressful situation. You have the best intentions for your family and your children. You are doing your best to take care of them, as well as yourself during recovery from depression.
I assume you have discussed it with your spouse, hopefully in a neutral setting to both of you. But still, when both parties are conflicted it is sometimes difficult to see the bigger picture and potential solutions. You mentioned going to the counselling together. Would it be possible to ask them to mediate between you? In my own experience using the nonviolent communication method (NVC) when resolving conflicts with family members is really effective - if you're interested here.is a useful guideline.
Best wishes,
C