i'm 28 and never had a gf

Why have you never approached a girl? Is this a confidence thing? Looks?

I know some of the most unattractive , pigs that have gfs. Complete douchbaggs but I also know smart religious guys who don't have gfs and haven't ever had one. I think you have to take chances and who you . Don't suck up and tr to please her every wish be your self , do wht you like and what you don't like. Show who you really are, with her, only then all you find who is right for and your similar interest.

I'm 31 and have never been involved with a guy. It has a lot to do with social anxiety and lack of confidence, and a fear of actually committing to online dating. I've tried chatting with guys on OKCupid and Plenty of Fish but I found the guys pushed me to meet before I was ready or I got sucked into chatting to guys I wasn't interested in because I was afraid to just say "I'm not interested." Not fun at all.

You should get rid of your complexes if any. Where is your self-confidence? Being a girl, I know that girls love self-confident guys. You should start from just conversating with the opposite sex. You can use some websites (like match.com (paid) or https://kovla.com/datings/us/new-york-city). The effectiveness of the last one I checked myself.