At a complete loss for the first time ever

Hey guys, let me first start by wishing you all well. I have always been the one to help others whether it destroy me or inspire me, but I have come to the point in which I am unable to help others simply because of my life's recent events. I just became divorced, lost my father while holding his hand, my cousin who I helped raised was murdered, and I was unable to grieve because of my ex wifes inability to confront or even acknowledge my challenges. We were married for 10 years, and too summarize the final piece, she pleaded to attempt suicide in front of our children because I stopped enabling her drug habits. A big domestic fight occured, and she would not allow me to leave, so I finally called the police to help control the situation that I admittedly could not help any more. When police arrived I felt betrayed because all of her scratches and locks of hair she had ripped out due to her manic episodes she had blamed all on me. I went to jail under these accusations, and that's just the tip of the ice burg. I had dropped all of my friends and family in order to help her comfort, and ultimately I feel like I have nothing left after our divorce. As strong as I have been for the family, I can not see my children due to the lies she created. It has defeated me. She had complete control over me for 10 years... I don't know how to rebuild from this. Would any one have any suggestions? I truly am at a loss. If you're still reading this, thank you so much for your time.