I don't know what to do and how to cope anymore
I am seriously reaching my limits. I don't know how to deal with my loneliness anymore. I don't know what to do anymore. All I can do is cry but it doesn't help in any way. I need help, or an euthanasia, or anything
@IdkWhatNameToPutHere
being lonely is hard .... and some of us are lonely as we do not reach out and some are lonely surrounded by people whom we do not feel like we fit in with.....
the first one is easier then the second..IMO ...... so many of us wait ... hope someone walks up and chats with us.... instead of us being the person to walk up to others. we get more desperate when the people do not seem to show up and start conversations.... was hard for me... but i will speak first .... because we cannot expect others to fix our situation.
if you are in second group where we have people around us but we do not have much in common the thing is to talk about many things and sooner or later we can find common ground we did not see at first. i have made friends with someone on the surface i thought i had zero interest in being friends with.
@toughTiger6481 I am lonely because I have no one to reach out to, not because I don't reach out, because if I had people to reach out to I would. I have no friends, no SO, not a single family member that understands me. No one at all. And I cannot interact with strangers because I live in a small town where no social events happen, so socializing with other strangers goes out the window. And online I always get overlooked or ignored or ghosted. So no, it's not easier in the first possibility at all.
@IdkWhatNameToPutHere
I get it because i am not a speak up person but literally watched someone talk with and exchange numbers making friends waiting for a plane.... seriously just talking with someone in line .... i am always in awe of how does that even happen?
I try speak to some people that I see a couple times a week like a store clerk or people working in same office building and it never seems to go anywhere................ Yet 3 strangers who never met waiting for a plane and by the time the plane landed they all exchanged contact info and talked of meeting up.... I wish it worked that way for me sometimes.
@IdkWhatNameToPutHere
I have not met ...Even One family that "gets" all their kids/ family members ....
They instead see you how they choose or want to......... harder for them to SEE the REAL you then it is for a perfect stranger to see you.... I know that....i lived that..... many do.
I cut many off ......went no contact .....because they had a picture in their head of who i am.... and they refused to change and see me.
if we tell ourselves we can't .... we won't .. if we tried once and decided it does not work we will not make the effort ..... ever learn to ride a bike and give up after a couple falls?
the time we spend justifying ..."Why" suggestions or something outside of our comfort zone will not work ....... ie time wasted in my opinion finding options or taking a leap of faith that it WILL work.
@IdkWhatNameToPutHere
Hi, i cant relate..im still struggling with this but one thing I've learnt is that i have to do something about it myself. It is not a must for you to have deep close relationships with people to be able to function. Yes, that one close relationship is what we all crave but it is not an absolute necessity to be able to live in the present moment. You can have amazing relationships with people on the surface even if you dont find much connection with them. Perhaps if you give them a chance you could end up learning something that gives you more knowledge about yourself and makes you feel more connected with yourself..in the meantime as you do your best to meet better people, you could build more maturity, work more towards your purpose, and also find more happiness in being by yourself. Work with what is available..
@patientWriter703
Im sorry i meant i can relate to it..why cant we edit our posts?
