I feel like an alien...
I feel like I can't relate to anyone or no one understands me when I tell them how I feel. I feel that there isn't any place for me here but I keep trying to find one. I didn't start feeling like this until a year ago when I graduated from college.
I didn't have the best experience but I felt so good that I overcame everything and I was at peace with myself. Then I came home and my best friends kept telling me there was something wrong with me. That I was abnormal because I wasn't dating and getting into relationships like them. It didn't bother me at first but now its growing like bacteria in my mind.
I just feel like I can't connect to anyone anymore. It's just an empty feeling but I'm working on it. My social skills have improved and I spend less time with my friends so that I can work on myself. That's all I really know how to do.
@straightforwardOcean2408 First I want to tell you that you are not alone in feeling the way you do. I think that at some point in everyone's lives it is difficult to find the right people that really understand and connect with us and I have faced this problem just like many before and after you. The important thing is knowing that we will get through this difficult time and you will find those that do understand you and support you. Our listeners here at 7 Cups of Tea are here for you, me specifically and I would be more than happy to discuss with you further. Please feel free to message me. I look forward to hearing from you my friend. Glad you posted here so I could reach out to you.
@straightforwardOcean2408
Hi I just want you to know that I feel that way too. I think maybe it's always been this way I just didn't realize or put it together until now. I'm married and have children and I don't feel connected to them or my husband. I feel numb or just distant I guess. Not in a psychopath way I have emotions just don't feel connected and really don't have friends. I have a few people I know and sometimes talk to but it's not deep or real. I expect to be misunderstood or treated poorly that now I just don't have the energy to care or try to connect anymore. It has eluded me and I only seem to really connect to strangers I'll never meet or see again. Go figure! SOO Confused....
@straightforwardOcean2408
Honestly, I feel like you are letting other people shaping you.
You should be doing what makes you happy. What other people say are only their own opinions. If you feel like that you are okay with being at peace with yourself and not get into a relationship, then that's perfectly okay to do so. There are no set of "rules" of needing to have a partner at a certain age. When the time comes, it will come.
You just need to do you. However, if you feel like you have things that need to be improved, then you can slowly work on those by starting to get our of your comfort zone. I can tell you are a very hard working person. And that you love improving yourself. So start by finding a set of goals you think that will benefit you in the long run and simply go for it. Work on your weaknesses and sharpen your strengths. You will do just fine.
Best of luck mate!
