need help with feeling worthless and loneliness
hello. so i have been having depression for a year now and have had a lot of problems. right now i just don't feel loved by anyone or even feel like i even matter to anyone :( please anyone help me. i have been having a bad time already and have been feeling worthless a lot.
I really feel you ...i already feel the same, i am here if you need to talk..iknow it's really hard to struggle alone in this world
@fantasticForever95 thank you but i am not sure if i can talk right now. i will go and sleep soon. i do hope you will get better though.
@unassumingTree5669 I know how you feel, it's pretty tough. It may seem like your problems are way too big for you to deal with at the moment, and that's completely okay. Let yourself process them appropriately with rest and a clear head. Your emotions are valid, and you have the right to exist. I may not be a loved one, but you matter to me. If you were gone, I'd miss you. You aren't worthless. Be safe, please. :)
@purplecoffeemug thank you a lot for your kind word. :) i am glad to hear them but i am not sure. i feel like anyone can replace me.
@unassumingTree5669
No, That is so not true. :( I doubt anyone can replace you. You are just too sweet and innocent for that and there are a lot of bad people in the world that do horrible stuff. I am sorry that you are feeling very alone. I think that anyone who thinks your worthless does not deserve you. We need more people like you and it makes me cry when someone innocent say horrible things about themselves like that. I am in tears reading what you put about yourself and it is horrible for you to think that way.
@diligentPeach2138 thank you a lot for kind words. Sorry about that. I guess I was just really negative but I don't know really. I mean I don't feel like I matter much and plus not many people do even like me in real life. I don't know I just think most people wouldn't like me. Thank you for the positive words anyway :) <3
@unassumingTree5669
I ams sorry to hear that not many people like you. But really, Please don't think that you are worthless. Who are those people that hate you? I am pretty sure that they are bullies or some people who are just rude in general. These people you should avoid.
@diligentPeach2138 hello. Well thank you for the kind words! But I don't know. Still feel like I can be replaced. It's not like I do something that no one else does. I don't have anyone who hates me but I don't feel like I matter to anyone :(
@unassumingTree5669
That is so not true. Please don't think that. Why do you keep saying these things? I am pretty sure many people on here do want to help you. Just what makes you say all those things. Really. I just have no clue.
@diligentPeach2138 thank you for the kind words again but I feel different. Have talked to so many listeners and it feels like none of them like me. And also I say these because well I have no one. I have no friends because I am introverted and shy and my family doesn't get me so I don't know. I just feel incredibly lonely and worthless.
@unassumingTree5669
I am sorry to hear that your family doesn't understand you. Making friends is a lot to do with your posture and body language. Stand up tall, chin up, shoulders back and remember to smile. Try practicing that in the mirror. And also the tone of your voice is important.
@diligentPeach2138 thank you for the advice but I don't ever go outside. And plus I cannot talk to myself in the mirror. I don't know I think I am just not suited to have friends
@unassumingTree5669
Maybe you should try and go for a walk. Just please try and go outside. Even for a short period of time. It doesn't matter how far you go. Just please at least try. I am sure it will make you feel better. Going outside can be benifical for those suffering with Mental illness. Just at least step outside for a few minutes and see how it feels.
@diligentPeach2138 okay. i will do that later, right now is a bad time. thanks for thr advice <3
@unassumingTree5669
I am glad to hear. Just promise me you will go outside even if it is just for a few minutes. It will be beneficial, trust me.
@diligentPeach2138 i will :) however not sure what i can do outside but i guess i will go for a small walk.
@unassumingTree5669
Just go for a walk, Please it will make you feel better. It is good for you especially when you suffer a mental illness.
@diligentPeach2138 okay i will :) just for a few mints though.
@unassumingTree5669
Yes, just for a few minutes.
@diligentPeach2138 good! well thank you for the jelp and advice!
@unassumingTree5669
Jelp? I am sorry I came across as judgemental, I wasn't meant to. I am sorry.
@diligentPeach2138 no no! it's okay and i meant help :) thank you a lot!
@unassumingTree5669
Noo, I really am sorry. I must have said something very wrong. I didn't mean to be judgemental.
@diligentPeach2138 you didn't really. you just tried to help.
@unassumingTree5669
Well, I am glad, I really thought I did when you said jelp instead of help.
@diligentPeach2138 that is okay! i don't even know what jelp means. i am sorry for that mistake! have an amazing day! <3
@unassumingTree5669
Well, Yeah, I hope you do too. Jelp basically means being judgemental toward people.
@diligentPeach2138 i see. well again for sorry for making that mistake! you were nice and tried helping me :) have an amazing day! <3
@unassumingTree5669
I will and thank you. :)
@diligentPeach2138 your welcome! goodbye and take care! <3
@unassumingTree5669
Did you go for a short walk? I am just hoping you took my advice because I know it will help you.
@diligentPeach2138 hello, i did about an hour ago and bought a few snacks while i was outside. not sure if i am better or not though.
@unassumingTree5669
It is good to hear that you finally managed to go out. What type of snacks did you bring?
@diligentPeach2138 thank you! you know just what people buy. i bought a few cookies that are taste really sweet!
@unassumingTree5669
Cookies. :) That sounds very nice. I am glad that you got some nice fresh air. :)
@diligentPeach2138 yeah thank you :) not sure if i will do it again tomorrow but either way thank you a lot.
@unassumingTree5669
That is alright. :) I hope you enjoy your cookies. Have an amazing day and I am happy for you. :)
@diligentPeach2138 thank you! i did enjoy them! i also hope you will have an amaing day! take care and stay safe <3
@unassumingTree5669 hey I think I know what you talk about I can write you a message you must be wonderful :)))))
@communicativeEyes5347 hello. well thank you :) your a memeber though so sadly we cant send messages.
@unassumingTree5669
I am sorry that you are really depressed and lonely. I understand that depression is hard to get through. Maybe you can try and get a dog or a pet companion to help you through loneliness.
@carefulStrings4967 thank you for the kind words. Sadly I can't get a pet because my family doesn't like animals. :(
@unassumingTree5669 sorry don't know how this app works very much yet
@unassumingTree5669 Tree, I have been in the same situation. Before November when I sought medical help, it was an every day feeling and I felt like I had nowhere to go in life. I had no future. If you haven't already, I would seriously consider medical help. I was very hesitant in getting medications at first, but the doctor did remind me that if I can't get my brain to rebalance itself then other forms of treatment won't work. But if that is not something you are ready for, I would highly recommend talking it out with someone you can trust.
@BugSCE very sorry to hear that but i cannot talk to a therapist. therapy is expensive and i have no one that i trust;. in fact i really have no one really who even likes me.
@unassumingTree5669 I know where you are at. Therapy is too expensive for me as well. I have only been a user on this site for a few days, but it has helped tremendously. Keep giving the support groups and listeners a try. Some times just letting it all out in a non judgmental way helps. 
@BugSCE thank you :) i might try that but i have been on this site for a year now and i don't know. feel like it just never helped me. either way glad that your getting better from it! <3
@unassumingTree5669
Hi there, I'm Peter. I know how you feel. I'm always willing to talk. If no one said it today, you matter.
@Pete3151 nice to meet you peter and thank you :)
I don't like all these standard speeches about how everything definitely will be brighter in future and how you are awesome by yourself already. To be honest, it's not true - it should not be said for sure.
What is really matters is how you see yourself and what you actually feel and do to help yourself.
Will you feel yourself more mature and strong and healthy and brave and calm and happy as a person if you climb a mountain? Do charity? Learn new professional skills? Change the job? Go to gym? Help animals? Start the blog? Write a poem? Grow a flower? Code an app? Clean your house? Repair an old clock?
Then do it.
If you want to stop and let your emotions be, then all right. They should be released. But it's never should be the only thing you do.
Scheduling and going step by step helps. Journaling and day regime helps, too (basically, you should have proper ≈7,5 sleeping hours). Of course, sports helps too, it's good for discipline and shape. And reading the good book is always more interesting and helpful than scrolling the Instagram feed.
Sometimes 7cups is helpful. But you shouldn't rely on it. Sometimes it can be surprisingly useless. The professional therapist can help. I don't know about medication - it should be checked by the therapist. And also you won't be able to buy it legally if it's not approved by some docs (at least in my country).
Basic things. Because we don't know what do you mean by loneliness and worthlessness. Loneliness is a pretty deep concept. You can be lonely in very different ways. I know.
@xxxniareht
He comes from a poor Country where there is very little opportunity.
@xxxniareht hello. thank you a lot for the advice but i am not sure how i do see myself. i just want to be happy and have even tried stuff but i don't know. i just never did feel better even with my hobbies. and yeah i agree 7 cups is really useless but it's the only way of getting support for me. therapist is really expensive and just not really a good idea for me :(
@unassumingTree5669
Hey there, I just want to say that im sorry that you feel that way because it never nice to feel lonely and worthless, and you not the only one who feels this way. I know you long for a close relationship with a friend or family member because it's always amazing to have someone who is there for you and by your side. However, you can still feel this way when you have close relationship with someone, so being alone does not always equal lonliness or worthless. In my opinon I think the reason you feel this way is because how you view yourself, if you love and accept who you are within then it's possible that you never feel lonely and worthless. In order to overcome anything, you must first overcome within <3
I hope that helps
@CeeJay524 hello. Thank you for the kind words. I don't know. Could be that but honestly I don't really know. I mean I just did wish I was happy but that is just too hard for me
@unassumingTree5669
hello. so i have been having depression for a year now and have had a lot of problems. right now i just don't feel loved by anyone or even feel like i even matter to anyone :( please anyone help me. i have been having a bad time already and have been feeling worthless a lot.
hey! i'm sorry you're experiencing this. i know how you feel - i've been there. if it means anything, i love you and you matter to me. i care about you very much. my chat is always open if you want to talk! i know you may feel worthless right now, but you mean so much to me and i'm so happy you're here. it does get better. i know it really doesn't feel like it right now, but even the worst storms have a rainbow once they're over. you're doing amazing and it WILL get better.
@emmaishereforyou88 thank you a lot for the kind words but I don't know. How do I matter to you? I don't even know you :( thank you though. I do hope that I will be getting better but it's just really hard for me
@unassumingTree5669
All I say now that just hang in there. I'm doing the same
@unassumingTree5669
When we feel lonely usually feeling of worthless goes side by side. As we keeping thinking why I am alone why nobody love.. we start doubting our worth.
I often used to feel that way. Maybe it might in your case. Just sharing my copying mechanism maybe it work for you.Self talk and pushing myself in doing activity which I used to like. Setting small goal and appreciating it make me start feeling confident and slowly I start accepting though loneliness is there but I nice I will keep patient. I have many thing in life too achieve time being. It long process but it worked for me. I
