Dating someone with depression. Could really do with some advice. Thanks
Hi, the reason why Im here is because Im dating someone with depression and I would really like some advice. Weve been dating for a couple of months. He hasnt opened up about the depression but I found out that a couple of years ago he suffered from depression and became suicidal, had councelling, etc. We went from speaking every day, having great dates to one day he withdrew completely, out of no where without any indication or explanation. Literally went from texting all day to ignoring my reply txt and calls. A week later after no contact he sent me a text saying 'I'm not feeling good and having issues. I tried to make contact again but it was ignored. Last week I received a second message to say he is still not feeling well and needs to rest up and promised he would get back to me but another week has gone and no contact. I am aware he has some other physical health issues too but I believe he is not feeling well because of his depression and want to support him but Im struggling with the silence on his part. Has anyone experienced this before? How I can support him? Is the above expected behaviour of someone suffering from depression. Any advice would be much appreciated. I just want him to know that I am here for him and will never judge him.
@Thianna Hello! Depression is difficult ( I would know...I have it myself ) I would love to offer some advice for you!
Sometimes...When there are ignored text messages (they get worrying) so ( I have depressed friends who do the same) I recommend sending something maybe a little encourouging or something
I ( though this may sound rude ) have gotten worried from the ignored messages....I Had went to there house to check up on them. (of course I knock and be polite and wait)
Keep spirits high! Meaning try to stay loveing and affectionate with hugs and normal things y'all would do.
and always stay in a calm mood...or use soothing words when around him
@happychan2006 thank you, I really appreciate it x
@Thianna
no problem
@Thianna heyy, I've also had depression, and I can tell that your boyfriend is having a hard time, he's really lucky to have you. Many people that suffer from depression also suffer from loneliness, even though sometimes these people are surrounded by caring and loving people, they tend to isolate themselves since their feelings overwhelm them. I'm sure he feels really lonely, so I would advice you to visit him, probably his first reaction will be "please, leave", but let him know that you'll be always there for him, deep down he knows he needs and wants your companion. It's all about patience and perseverance, as corny as it sounds. I hope things get better, let me know if you need someone to talk to :)
@IILauraII Thanks, I appreciate it. Happy to talk. Not sure how this works as I'm new to the site x