Stupid things doctors&family&other people say
"Oh you're just sad because you're a college student, you aren't depressed"
Said my psychiatrist when I went to her appointment.
It went a bit like this: "Hey, how are you? (shakes hand) You look so pretty, how's things going?" "oh sort of okay" "Oh don't you tell me you're worse!"
I hate when she does that...
"I'm just a bit down and anxious" "Oh it's just college, it's normal" "I don't know-" "It is. Here's your prescriptions, have a nice day and see you soon. Bye" (shakes hand and i leave)
Please, i need to notify - as i was talking, she wrote my prescriptions. We hadn't started our conversation ,she was already writing down my medication. I'm not on anti-depressants, nor mood stabilizers nor nothing. Because she's always saying i'm better, even when i spend my days crying, only because i wear makeup and get dressed.
Oh and must say, my nurse once said "you weren't that depressed, you put your hair on a bun even when you didn't comb it. Depressed people don't care, they just let their hair down and don't comb it" I mean, WHY would you say that?! Or "I think your depression is for attention"
Anyone went through stuff like this? How do you handle this... shit??!
I'm diagnosed with depression but everyone but my psychologist likes to think i was "cured" from depression the moment i left residential, after 5 weeks there. Two years ago. It's like i was faking it, and some people even said i was faking it because i got into college and finished high school
Apparently, only "mentally healthy" people can be successful in life, according to my family. And i'm going back to my old ways... getting worse again, and no one seems to care.
your psychiatrist gives other psychiatrists a bad name. she is a careless inconsiderate airhead. how did she even become a psychiatrist. I find this logic pretty absurd that ifsomeone dresses well then they are alright. its outright stupid on her part to say that. all my support and best wishes g to you dear...just hang in there.
I'm sorry you have to put up with this. Perhaps you should start looking for a new psychiatrist? I've been in similar situations where doctors don't take me seriously because I dress nice and put on makeup which I only do so out low self esteem and fear of being mocked. Irritating...
It's a bad logic, and i've done an experiment... go with a hoodie, hair up, no make up and she put me on more meds when i said just that i felt a tinsy bit worse. But my dad once said she's rude... but I can't change doctors. She's the one free here, the others we need to pay. And to pay means either food and university, or mental health, so it's a choice I can't make...Sadly.
Thank you for your replies, sweeties.
I don't wear makeup by choice. The fact that they think that people are a certain way because they do things a certain way or the lack thereof is a ridiculous crutch that a lot of people have been using lately.
I'm sorry you had to go through this. It's beyond ridiculuous that professionals have fallen to such levels. I've seen it first hand and its pretty shocking. I had a friend who was so afraid of going to her appointment that it took her hours of getting ready and doing her hair and makeup because she didn't want to appear depressed.
I went with her that appointment and every time her doc was asking dumb questions about makeup etc. I chimed in. He eventually stopped and looked kind of intimidated. Of course I was dressed like someone from the Matrix movies, french braided hair, boots, black trench coat, sunglasses etc. :)
After that he pretty much stopped all the stupid questions and actually switched to asking relevant ones at all of her appointments, like how she was feeling instead of assuming etc. I guess what I'm trying to say is sometimes bringing along a friend can help. They can call the doc out on all of that.
I have to agree with fix you.. Your counselor is suppose to help you with coping skills.. Not saying you're better.. I know I'm not 100% better today but I am better than yesterday.. I do put my hair up in ponytail cuz I didn't want to deal with my looks. At least I'm decent.. So you do need to find someone else.