Coping Stratagies

violinathena1019 August 20th, 2015

I'm not sure how "healthy" my coping strategy is, but when I get depressed I find my favorite food and eat it. Sometimes it's just a little, and sometimes it's a lot. But it makes me feel a little better just to give myself permission to have a treat.

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heartfulHeart81 September 29th, 2016

@violinathena1019 I think it's healthy as long as it isn't a binge. But treating yourself can be uplifting :)

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lavenderFarm4174 September 2nd, 2015

I have several. I can eat something that chocolate that makes me feel happy. I can read and escape into a fictional world and get away from reality, and I also write fanfiction.

Wanderer4 September 2nd, 2015

I write poetry and listen to music that I can identify with.

Celaeno September 3rd, 2015

I found a great article, with lots of nice coping ideas, and I thought I will share it with you, lovelies:

How To Help Yourself Get Through Depression On A Day-To-Day Basis:

1. Write. Keep a journal. Somehow writing everything down helps keep the misery from running around in circles.

2. Listen to your favorite help songs (a bunch of songs that have strong positive meaning for you).

3. Read (anything and everything) Go to the library and check out fiction youve wanted to read for a long time; books about depression, spirituality, morality; biographies about people who suffered from depression but still did well with their lives (Winston Churchill and Martin Luther, to name two).

4. Sleep for a while.

5. Even when busy, remember to sleep. Notice if what you do before sleeping changes how you sleep.

6. If you might be a danger to yourself, dont be alone. Find people. If that is not practical, call them up on the phone. If there is no one you feel you can call, suicide hotlines can be helpful, even if youre not quite that badly off yet.

7. Hug someone or have someone hug you.

8. Remember to eat. Notice if eating certain things (e.g. sugar or coffee) changes how you feel.

9. Make yourself a fancy dinner, maybe invite someone over.

10. Take a bath or a perfumed bubble bath.

11. Mess around on the computer.

12. Rent comedy videos.

13. Go for a long walk.

14. Dancing. Alone in your house or out with a friend.

15. Eat well. Try to alternate foods you like (maybe junk foods) with the stuff you know you should be eating.

16. Spend some time playing with a child.

17. Buy yourself a gift.

18. Phone a friend.

19. Read the newspaper comics page.

20. Do something unexpectedly nice for someone.

21. Do something unexpectedly nice for yourself.

22. Go outside and look at the sky.

23. Get some exercise while youre out, but dont take it too seriously.

24. Pulling weeds is nice, and so is digging in the dirt.

25. Sing. If you are worried about responses from critical neighbors, go for a drive and sing as loud as you want in the car. Theres something about the physical act of singing old favorites thats very soothing. Maybe the rhythmic breathing that singing enforces does something for you too. Lullabies are especially good.

26. Pick a small easy task, like sweeping the floor, and do it.

27. If you can meditate, its really helpful. But when youre really down you may not be able to meditate. Your ability to meditate will return when the depression lifts. If you are unable to meditate, find some comforting reading and read it out loud.

28. Feed yourself nourishing food.

29. Bring in some flowers and look at them.

30. Exercise, Sports. It is amazing how well some people can play sports even when feeling very miserable.

31. Pick some action that is so small and specific you know you can do it in the present. This helps you feel better because you actually accomplish something, instead of getting caught up in abstract worries and huge ideas for change. For example say hi to someone new if you are trying to be more sociable. Or, clean up one side of a room if you are trying to regain control over your home.

32. If youre anxious about something youre avoiding, try to get some support to face it.

33. Getting Up. Many depressions are characterized by guilt, and lots of it. Many of the things that depressed people want to do because of their depressions (staying in bed, not going out) wind up making the depression worse because they end up causing depressed people to feel like they are screwing things up more and more. So if youve had six or seven hours of sleep, try to make yourself get out of bed the moment you wake up ... you may not always succeed, but when you do, its nice to have gotten a head start on the day.

34. Cleaning the house. This worked for some people me in a big way. When depressions are at their worst, you may find yourself unable to do brain work, but you probably can do body things. One depressed person wrote, So I spent two weeks cleaning my house, and I mean CLEANING: cupboards scrubbed, walls washed, stuff given away... throughout the two weeks, I kept on thinking ‘Im not cleaning it right, this looks terrible, I dont even know how to clean properly, but at the end, I had this sparkling beautiful house!

35. Volunteer work. Doing volunteer work on a regular basis seems to keep the demons at bay, somewhat... it can help take the focus off of yourself and put it on people who may have larger problems (even though it doesnt always feel that way).

36. In general, It is extremely important to try to understand if something you cant seem to accomplish is something you simply CANT do because youre depressed (write a computer program, be charming on a date), or whether its something you CAN do, but its going to be hell (cleaning the house, going for a walk with a friend, getting out of bed). If it turns out to be something you can do, but dont want to, try to do it anyway. You will not always succeed, but try. And when you succeed, it will always amaze you to look back on it afterwards and say I felt like such shit, but look how well I managed to...! This last technique, by the way, usually works for body stuff only (cleaning, cooking, etc.). The brain stuff often winds up getting put off until after the depression lifts.

37. Do not set yourself difficult goals or take on a great deal of responsibility.

38. Break large tasks into many smaller ones, set some priorities, and do what you can, as you can.

39. Do not expect too much from yourself. Unrealistic expectations will only increase feelings of failure, as they are impossible to meet.

40. Perfectionism leads to increased depression.

41. Try to be with other people, it is usually better than being alone.

42. Participate in activities that may make you feel better. You might try mild exercise, going to a movie, a ball game, or participating in religious or social activities. Dont overdo it or get upset if your mood does not greatly improve right away. Feeling better takes time.

43. Do not make any major life decisions, such as quitting your job or getting married or separated while depressed. The negative thinking that accompanies depression may lead to horribly wrong decisions. If pressured to make such a decision, explain that you will make the decision as soon as possible after the depression lifts. Remember you are not seeing yourself, the world, or the future in an objective way when you are depressed.

44. While people may tell you to snap out of your depression, that is not possible. The recovery from depression usually requires antidepressant therapy and/or psychotherapy. You cannot simple make yourself snap out of the depression. Asking you to snap out of a depression makes as much sense as asking someone to snap out of diabetes or an under-active thyroid gland.

45. Remember: Depression makes you have negative thoughts about yourself, about the world, the people in your life, and about the future.

46. Remember that your negative thoughts are not a rational way to think of things. It is as if you are seeing yourself, the world, and the future through a fog of negativity. Do not accept your negative thinking as being true. It is part of the depression and will disappear as your depression responds to treatment. If your negative (hopeless) view of the future leads you to seriously consider suicide, be sure to tell your doctor about this and ask for help. Suicide would be an irreversible act based on your unrealistically hopeless thoughts. Remember that the feeling that nothing can make depression better is part of the illness of depression. Things are probably not nearly as hopeless as you think they are.

If you are on medication:

47. Take the medication as directed. Keep taking it as directed for as long as directed.

48. Discuss with the doctor ahead of time what happens in case of unacceptable side-effects.

49. Dont stop taking medication or change dosage without discussing it with your doctor, unless you discussed it ahead of time.

50. Remember to check about mixing other things with medication. Ask the prescribing doctor, and/or the pharmacist and/or look it up in the Physicians Desk Reference. Redundancy is good.

51. Except in emergencies, it is a good idea to check what your insurance covers before receiving treatment.

52. Do not rely on your doctor or therapist to know everything. Do some reading yourself. Some of what is available to read yourself may be wrong, but much of it will shed light on your disorder.

53. Talk to your doctor if you think your medication is giving undesirable side-effects.

54. Do ask them if you think an alternative treatment might be more appropriate for you.

55. Do tell them anything you think it is important to know.

56. Do feel free to seek out a second opinion from a different qualified medical professional if you feel that you cannot get what you need from the one you have.

57. Skipping appointments, because you are too sick to go to the doctor is generally a bad idea.

58. If you procrastinate, dont try to get everything done. Start by getting one thing done. Then get the next thing done. Handle one crisis at a time.

59. If you are trying to remember too many things to do, it is okay to write them down. If you make lists of tasks, work on only one task at a time. Trying to do too many things can be too much. It can be helpful to have a short list of things to do now and a longer list of things you have decided not to worry about just yet. When you finish writing the long list, try to forget about it for a while.

60. If you have a list of things to do, also keep a list of what you have accomplished too, and congratulate yourself each time you get something done. Dont take completed tasks off your to-do list. If you do, you will only have a list of uncompleted tasks. Its useful to have the crossed-off items visible so you can see what you have accomplished

61. In general, drinking alcohol makes depression worse. Many cold remedies contain alcohol. Read the label. Being on medication may change how alcohol affects you.

62. Books on the topic of What to do during Depression: A Reason to Live, Melody Beattie, Tyndale House Publishers, Wheaton, IL.167 pages. This book focuses on reasons to choose life over suicide, but is still useful even if suicide isnt on your mind. In fact, it reads a lot like this portion of the FAQ. An excerpt: Do two things each day. In times of severe crisis, when you dont want to do anything, do two things each day. Depending on your physical and emotional condition, the two things could be taking a shower and making a phone call, or writing a letter and painting a room.

63. Get a cat. Cats are clean and quiet, they are often permitted by landlords who wont allow dogs, they are warm and furry.

What do you think about them?

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jenniferlobsinger77 September 12th, 2015

i love a lot of these. but my farete one is dont say snap out of it get over it. peopile need to lorn that depression is not a joke

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Moj July 13th, 2016

@Celaeno thanks for this list...appreciate you going to that work of posting it all. It's been helpful for me tonight in trying to figure out some coping strategies that might help...

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Celaeno July 13th, 2016

@Moj, I'm glad to hear that it is still useful. I recently revisited this list and I discover the tip about getting up again, so I'm trying to do that, but with poor resultats ^^; I hope it gave you some practical ideas to combat your low moods. How are you feeling, if I may ask, lovely?

Sending you many, many hugs!

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fearlessWriter78 September 13th, 2016

@Celaeno I think this list is really great. Spot on... aside from getting a cat. I'm a dog person :)

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Celaeno September 13th, 2016

@fearlessWriter78, hah, I'm glad that you like it ^^ I'm not a pet person at all, so feel free to adjust these suggestion as you like ^^

All the best!

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DarkCoffee October 5th, 2016

@Celaeno

Thank you for this list. I'll have a better look on them and see if something suits me.

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fluffyUnicorns84 OP September 3rd, 2015

Some awesome ways of coping here....... love the idea of being creative by writing stories or poetry. Maybe you could share some of your work with us.

September 8th, 2015

That is a great article....reminds me of List of 100.....write a list of 100 thing s you are grateful for......100 things you love.....100 pick me up strategies etc....

Recently found doodling and coloring quite usely

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Moj July 13th, 2016

@intellectualComputer9908 I just might start some of those lists this weekend...good idea. Keeps your mind busy, and a good way to try and turn your thoughts to a more positive place.

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jenniferlobsinger77 September 12th, 2015

theres not much that helps my depression in the house most of its out of the house. and the sad thing is i cant drive because of my specail needs

imwithhealthtoo July 4th, 2016

journaling can really help--writing down inspirational quotes, and things you want to do can help one to stay positive

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Diandra August 15th, 2016

@imwithhealthtoo

Awesome! It's great to see some positive coping strategies being put out there!

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fearlessWriter78 September 13th, 2016

@imwithhealthtoo I agree - writing down/saying mantras or positive affirmations helps.

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FruityWatermelon July 13th, 2016

Unfortunately, I have the tendency to eat my feelings away. Especially when I'm trying to cope with something that's pretty bad. Like when I lost my dog, I ate a whole lot. Then that pretty much motivated me to start working out. If I'm angry, work out. If I'm worried, work out. If I'm sad, eat.

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Celaeno July 13th, 2016

@FruityWatermelon, still, I think it is great that you recognized the pattern! I am in no way a professional, but when you discover the link between your own moods and actions it can become really useful, because you can now use a specific activity to influence your emotions. For example, what activity makes you feel calm or satisfied? For me, it is something manually, like folding clothes or sorting papers or making origami, etc. The next time you notice that you "eat your stress away", you can try to make a concious decision to start doing this new activity instead, which will trigger a different mood.

Or you can control your eating habit by focusing on your food and choosing something that you can eat plenty without feeling guilty afterwards, like dried fruits, pumpkin seeds or nuts. It depends on your preferences, of course ^^

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Jpmk August 17th, 2016

My coping strategy was to shut myself away in isolation from others, as to not be a burden or to rub off my negativity onto others.

Then I tried cutting myself, I liked it for about 30 minutes, then continued doing it but hated myself for it.

So then I stopped the cutting and went back to isolation.

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