I don't know

I guess that over the years I've become so used to being the family therapist that when it comes to my own issues, I'm at a loss. My mum is bipolar, bi, been through 2 divorces, and suffering from lupis. My twin is non-binary, into women, and dealing with hypothyroidism. On top of that I comfort my twin from our homophobic father, have 4 other siblings, a horrible now ex step father, and a slightly homophobic new step father. With all of this going on, I don't have much time to take care of myself. I haven't had anything medically diagnosed, but I'm believed to have anxiety, adhd, an iron deficiency, and another thing I won't bring up because it was never properly addressed. I also, after much research, believe I am Aromantic. However, I often feel like I'm faking all of this for attention, to just label myself in some way like everyone else. I feel as though since everyine else has problem, mine don't matter or are less important/don't even exist. My twin told me that they wont take anything I say seriously untill I'm medically diagnosed, but that can't happen because we don't have the budget plus my little brother also needs to get tested for adhd while my little sister needs to be tested for severe ocd. Another bit is that I feel like I'm not allowed to be Aromantic because when I tried to bring it up, my mum got upset and said "Someone has to give me grandchildren" I've gotten a tad off topic, but the main point is that it's like I can't feel anything or be anything withought feeling like I'm copying someone or faking because I'm just a jealous teen wanting what everyone else has.[attention] It's to the point where I don't know who "me" is, and I often cry myself to sleep over this. If you have any advice or simply want to relate to me, please do so. I could use it.