Emotional eating or out of habit as a coping mechanism ?
I’ve been dealing with the ending of an abusive relationship. Where he tried to fat shame me, ( and he was also struggling with his weight) at times while other times complimented me especially at the beginning. I tried to lose weight even though I still looked good and many other people found me attractive. But I wanted to get healthy for myself and look better, and so I accepted what became more and more control and fat shaming on his part. But when I realized I wasn’t happy with him and started asserting myself, he got worse. And constantly criticized me not just for my weight, but any little thing. Now I’m overwhelmed and dealing with a lot of things at once. And find myself just eating to deal with emotions or boredom or anxiety or sometimes it seems out of habit once I start I mindlessly continue or don’t want to stop, can’t stop even if I tell myself I will.
@gregariousGrapefruit7800
Perhaps you really are compensating for all those times when you couldn't eat normally, experiencing difficult emotions, and now you, on the contrary, reinforce any difficult emotions with food. Maybe you should determine what you want to see yourself as? Other people's expectations can greatly influence us and this often infuriates, but it is difficult to cope with. Remember what you were like before the relationship?
