Parents
Like my parents keep telling me to eat more and when i actually start to they tell u why are u eating so much and start making me scared of being fat like.. I honestly don't know what to do anymore
@sunnyGrapes4964 hello! how are you feeling?
@sunnyGrapes4964
That has to be frustrating. Being scared of weight gain has to be hard to deal with as well. Unlike popular opinion, being scared of weight gain won't prevent it. Instead, it's more likely to convince your subconscious that managing your weight will be a difficult battle. Fear interferes with both calm, rational reasoning and the confidence that makes effective weight management possible.
Do your parents know how you're feeling about what they're saying to you?
Are there other variables, such as time of day you're eating, or the kind of food? Are your habits consistent, or do you alternate between eating very little and significantly more? I'm just wondering if at times they see you eating lightly and other times quite a bit more.
Are they aware that you're seeking support? Might they be willing to help you find support locally?
Hey I really appreciate u took ur time and wrote all of this but for real making me scared to be fat will just make me anxious and scared after a big meal and yes I do eat really little sometimes and other times I eat more than I should and and my parents sometimes try to say it in a better way but sometimes they say it in a way that makes me feel awful so yea they probably know what they're doing
@sunnyGrapes4964
That must be really confusing, to be getting conflicting information like that.
What if you listened to your body and no one else? Our bodies often know what they need, but they are often quite subtle in communicating it, so sometimes we need to learn how to listen to it.
And maybe you would like to read about dealing with triggers. Unfortunately, people are going to say unhelpful things. Even those who really care about you and desperately want to help, will probably say the wrong thing at the wrong time at some point. The trick is to accept the caring bit of the message and ignore the unhelpful details. Because you know best what's right for you.
Look after yourself. Nourishing your body with care and love is important.
Thank u for the advice! But its not that easy as it seems as someone who has Ed you can't just stop yourself if u eat more than little which is making me have anemia and low vitamin d(not rickets though thank god)so I tend to try not to eat that much cause Idk if I will be able to stop
@sunnyGrapes4964
Growing up, I was an emotional eater, and have always tended toward having an addictive personality. After gaining and losing tons of weight, I finally got a handle on it by making very small adjustments to my intake, like loading my plate with just a spoonful less than what had been my pattern. I'd maintain that level of intake for about a week, then reduce it slightly again. I repeated the process many times, until I finally arrived at a slightly negative calorie intake. Because the changes were tiny, neither my body or my brain fussed about it. 15 years ago, I lost around 100lbs, and haven't gained any back. My BMI is 21.
I had to figure out what to do with my emotions, since I wasn't eating them any more. Exercise helps, as does diverting my attention to something less stressful. One thing I don't do at all any more is eat large meals. I discovered that the more I eat, the hungrier I get. I think it's because when the stomach is expanded by a large volume of food, the process of it returning to it's normal size triggers feelings of hunger. So, I feel more satisfied with smaller meals.
For me, listening to my body has led to a very comfortable routine. Listening to well meaning others is probably always will be confusing, especially if they see you having a hard time regulating. Would polite stubbornness be helpful?
