Anyone else feel the same ?
I have a phobia of being sick and I have trouble eating when I feel naseous does anyone else get this too and if so how do you deal with it?
@ambitiousKite1490
Hi--there are a *lot* of people who have emetophobia. I did a forum search HERE and found a couple dozen threads from other people on this site who have posted about it in the past. 💜
I think I probably have a very mild touch of this phobia. It's been 24 years since the last time I was sick, and from what I've read, long streaks of that kind are very common among emetophobes and very uncommon for the general population. 😊
On the rare occasions where I feel like I'm nauseous, I've found that I'm usually able to calm it down by sitting still in a comfortable posture and either meditating or just passively watching my body sensations. There are some mindfulness exercises HERE if it's of interest. Some other things I've sometimes found helpful are listening to calming music or engaging in a relaxing but interesting activity (e.g. watching a gentle slice-of-life anime).
I've noticed that sometimes I'm able to identify the cause of any nausea that I'm experiencing (e.g. not sleeping enough, not eating enough, not drinking enough water, eating certain foods, eating too much food). So that's something else that helps me feel some power or control, feeling like there are things I can do that help prevent nausea. Ginger is also scientifically proven to be helpful for reducing nausea.
Hi this is apparently abnormal and I've just realised it last night when I got called out for it and it's fascinating and scary.
I have really bad understanding towards emotions. Or social things in general.
For example when I got called out that time, they said they were creeped out that I'm thanking them for it, in my logic, if it's my fault and I get called out for it it's a good things cuz I get to fix and make up for it, but apparently you're supposed to be upset in some sort of ways? I am upset that the effected people are hurt but apparently I'm missing something.
Other things such as deaths are just natural occurence, putting aside a feeling for later or never just so 'i can just put it aside there's no physical effort needed plus u get to make this work done without a feeling'
Is there anything I need to do about this situation?
@ZetsTeethInk
Hi--just want to make sure I'm understanding the situation. Does the following sound accurate?
You feel like sometimes you miss certain emotional or social cues or might respond to things in a way that doesn't feel normal. A couple examples:
- When something happens like a death, your immediate reaction isn't usually sadness so much as a feeling of, "I have things that I need to get done and feeling sad would be a distraction, so I'm going to put aside that feeling for now"
- Recently someone else mentioned that your reactions to a situation felt unusual to them. You thanked them for mentioning it (so that you could better understand it and try to avoid hurting people), but they found *that* reaction unusual or scary in some way.
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At least to me, I feel like both of those reactions are understandable:
- A lot of people have different reactions to death or to difficult things. Some people have stronger emotions or might prefer/need to work through feelings immediately. Other people have less powerful responses or prefer to not focus on feelings if it doesn't feel helpful or like it's the right time.
- Your reason for thanking others was that you *do* care about other them, and they just misunderstood the intentions/feelings behind your doing that.
Do you feel like there's something wrong?
@QuietMagic
I suppose you're correct!
While I do the ' I'll put aside these emotions for now so I can get things done' it's more of a 'i don't understand why I should be feeling this way, it cause more cons than pros to me, it's just a feeling that's easily put away, not a physical inconvenience such as a sore arm'
I've always have trouble with emotions which often makes more harm than good. I understand being called a horrible person multiple times since it did put people into bad situations but I wasn't even realizing it was because of me.
My lack of understanding has caused too much trouble which may be caused by me never having friends, I do talk but never in actual 'friendship' or the friendship just ends
When I said emotions and how people act and feel in certain situations are fascinating, people think I'm degrading or making fun of them or being abnormal (?), In reality I'm only learning and doesn't understand why it isn't an interesting thing to learn about
Perhaps I lack experience and understanding which is true but there's gotta be more than just that
@ZetsTeethInk
Ah I see -- so instead of it being like, "I'm feeling sad but I'm able to push past that feeling" it's more like "I'm not feeling this sadness that other people do in this situation and I'm not really understanding why someone would feel that way, or why that would be something helpful that I'm supposed to be ashamed of not feeling."
It's happened a few times in the past that because of not understanding how someone would feel, you've accidentally put them into a bad situation or hurt them.
Also, sometimes when you've described other people's feelings or actions as being interesting, they've found that to be a bit cold or insensitive. It really is how you feel, that all of this emotional stuff is kind of mysterious and complicated and really fascinating to analyze and try to figure out. But I guess maybe the way other people respond if you say that to them is like, "What, so am I just a lab rat for you to study?" 😊
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If it's of interest (which it might not be), I've read some stuff suggesting that empathy is sort of like a skill that can be learned or developed over time. For example:
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/mindful-anger/201809/learn-empathy-in-just-5-steps
