friendship jealousy?
not sure if this would be the term for it, but theres this one girl who i managed to make friends with (rare on my part lol) about 2 years ago and she is so so sweet, I love hanging out with her and talking with her. but near the end of last year she started including her other friends in our plans as well which i guess isnt really a concern bc they're nice people but now the problem is I always feel left out when im with them and I could feel the bond between us diminishing as time goes on because we dont hang out one on one anymore so I dont really get a chance to talk to her as deeply as I did before. I understand that she can have other friends too and theres obviously no problem with that but I kinda just miss when it was just the two of us.
has anyone else experienced something similar or have any idea of what I should do in this situation?
@radiodream
Hi! It is really special that you found a friend you connect with so deeply, especially since you mentioned that making friends doesn't always come easily. Feeling left out in a group doesn't mean you are being possessive or that her other friends aren't nice. It just means you miss the depth and the quiet space you used to share. That bond is important to you, and it is natural to feel a bit lonely even when you are sitting right next to her in a crowd. You might try suggesting a specific "just us" activity, like a coffee run or a walk, rather than waiting for a gap in the group plans. Often, friends don't realize they have stopped making that focused space until someone points out how much they value it.
@radiodream
Just let her know, you'd appreciate some one on one time to catch up, and talk, as you value her friendship and find it more helpful and genuine to speak alone 💚
