Breakup with friend

So I met a friend/coach though online course . He was 5 years younger than me . When the course was about to over we were talking a bit and I felt he is so calm and friendly and I asked him to call me sister as I was single child . He said he is scared of attachments and doesn’t want to involve deeply because of bad past with ex and traumatic childhood in hostel . I said it will not happen like that trust me we gonna be good friends and siblings like

He didn’t agree but we were talking normally getting to know each other . 2months later I felt I was the initiating conversations and and he also said he is avoidant so I thought It woukd be better to distance and behaved like that . At that time he kept a WhatsApp status and I didn’t react and he was like hey you changed you are not reacting so I thought he is interested and talked close again .this happened from 2023 June to 2024 April and in April I said I’m coming to your place ( we both are in different counties and he is in India ) and said let’s meet .he said he doesn’t want to as it increases attachments . I begged him for many days and he didn’t agree but surprised me in a railway station and I felt so loved

While I was returning he said I need to give you a letter , gift for your kid , family gift and all . I felt happy not for gifts but for he becoming close

I came to my usa and a month later I was distant again due to his behavior and he said before dying I wanted to call my ex friend for sure I will call you too ..that moment I felt it’s like confirming a sister relation and 2 months later I asked him you always say we should give 💯 in a relation then why are you like this

He said what relation ? Before day I asked him to send me a keychain for a memory as he only asked me to buy something for rakhi in India . I didn’t want expensive so I asked just a keychain . For that he said ok give me smart watch then . You have so much expectations on me he said

I felt bad and thought I was expecting more and myself sent a hoodies , chocolates , brother note to him from my country . He was nice for a month and in 2025 Jan he started sending reels related to ex friend like she was last , no one after , go back to 2016 and all . I told these reels are hurting me .but he scolded me then I came distant and was close with another female friend and he got angry

So in Feb I said I’m coming again to India .i said this time I’m staying in his place for 2days . Meanwhile he became so distant and I asked him why are you so distant he said oh you feel like that way then let it be

And in a conversation he got angry and said why are you involving my family

After all these I went to his place alone even he didn’t invite ( but he booked a ticket when I got issue )

As he didn’t invite I said will go to my friends place for sometime because I thought he might think I’m too clingy and I had to stay at hostel for him and had an uncomfortable situation there because of owner

He forget all these and said I thought you are coming only for me .but you went to your friends place I don’t like if people keep options and I cried

Then we went for a trip and his friends also came and they were also treating me as sister and I was little close and he made statements like oh you behave close with new people you talk so sweet with them

I cried again . I was meeting my another friend that day for that he said you said you only travel to meet me then how are you traveling for her this made me negative on you . I begged him to not talk like that

Later I was close with my childhood friends and he said one or none .be with them or me ? Am I counterpart or what ?

He said if I staring showing 500 percent love I will travel countries and do everything for you later he denied saying I said if I start

He scolds me if I ask anything about when he is sad and scolds again for not asking if I’m quiet

So I returned he was distant again I said you are my only friend i pleases don’t this he scolded me

I became distant and he stated sending ex reels she was last favorite and all

Once he told me to ask watch straps his ex gifted andi denied and he said can’t you do this for me

One day i called him and topic came i asked about that and unrelated he said it’s my mistake for asking you to select my clothes

I felt humiliated and thought he must be having some problems and i contacted his ex fried . She said he never disrespected her , showered her with many gifts and cared her . But their only problem was his possesivensss and they broke up and she said once he hugged her she is thinking it is love and as he also sending reels to her but no talking which I didn’t know

I came back and talked like interrogation is it good to hug a fiend without any emotional and all

He said it happened after he hit her emotional

Moments and she lied .thats true

He said let’s breakup you didn’t trust and said go and *** to me

I said i beared your taunting disrespect and all for 2years but you broke up with one fight . He said it’s death of my character this is huge i don’t want to talk to you

But later we talked not positively but about fights and breakup

In las December he stated sending death reels saying i cursed him which is why he is suffering and I got panic attacks because of that reels .

Now he is not talking but I’m not able to take all these i cared him like my own sibling and showered with love and he did all this to me . The thought of him not missing me making me angry and I’m not able to move on

He says he teaches me life lessons and he is the only one who gives true feedback