How to become an interesting person
I am very lonely and don’t have friends.
I am often told by people tnat I am very boring.
I don’t read or watch anything much and don’t have much to talk about. Please help me how to start what to do.
I do start reading or making plans but give up in between thinking tnat i can never become better or likeable .
@Shygirl2828
Hi! I'm Kiara. <3
What do you do when you're bored? What are your current obsessions? :)
Hey Kiara, I just while away time on *** or here or reading about self help stuff. But there is always a feeling of not being good and I don’t know anything about the world. I am always in self pity zone.
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Hmmm... Would you like some challenges? <3
That would be great. Thank you so much for taking time to respond. I feel grateful that someone bothered and cared. ð¥¹
@Shygirl2828
That's what we're here for. <3
I want you to do a brain dump. Right now, 5 minutes minimum. Use Google, use AI, I don't care. Answer this prompt:
What are subjects that I would be interested in learning more about? Or things I google that sound intriguing? Etc.
Let me know when you're done <3
@jesusredeemedme2425
Even if it's something you've literally NEVER heard of before today!
General world affairs
Geopolitics
How to invest money
Have some idea of the trends in technology
Have some idea of AI
Spirituality
Have idea of culture of different parts of the world
This is what I could think of at the moment
@Shygirl2828
Ok. So I want you to choose one of those (or something else you come up with), and decide to absolutely SPECIALIZE in that thing! Give yourself a time period. A day, a week, whatever. OBSESS over that thing. Look into multiple forms of learning- video, podcasts, books, magazine articles, etc. Eat, sleep, breathe, that topic.
At the end of the time period, switch topics.
I have autism (Asperger's, high-functioning), and I had a period of time recently where I obsessively learned about DID (dissociative identity disorder). This allowed me to have some AMAZING and deep convos with people with DID on 7Cups, which was so eye-opening and gave me new friends <3
What would you like to specialize in? And what timeframe? :)
I missed seeing this post. I was caught up for the last few days.
Thank you once again for giving me some direction.
I am planning to educate myself about investing money since o know nothing. As of now I think I will spend 30 days over this. And I will post something here everyday even if it some simple, silly or mundane.
And I am thrilled to just imagine that I will do this for the next 30 days. I so hope i can do it.
Thank you for sharing that you have autism. I am trying to be more understanding and aware of it. So if you would ever feel like talking about your experience, I would be interested in knowing.Totally fine if not too.
Sorry, I just saw this lol
What would you like to know? <3
How did it impact you? Did you have any problem with social interaction earlier? You mentioned you were shy. Are you still shy in person? If not, what helped you overcome it?
I wasn’t a fan of eye contact lol! That took awhile lol
I am, but when I’m comfy, I’m very loud and energetic hehe! It just took years of interaction with peers in my group, and they gently tugged me out of my shell <3
On some days when u educate myself o feel good about myself but on most days I don’t have any motivation and a deep rooted belief that anything I do o can never become smart or interesting enough because it can only come inherently
@Shygirl2828
I've been shy for most of my life. Quiet, sometimes reserved. Didn't date for the first time until I was 23. I totally understand.
Do you now find it easy to talk to people in person? Did you get over shyness with time or is there anything you specifically worked on to get over it?
More or less, but I’m still shy in unfamiliar settings.
I joined a new college group over a decade ago, because I grew up with a couple of the members, and I accidentally ran into them lol. Being around that group taught me to be social and learn cues from others <3
Thank you so much once again for responding. You have no idea what your response on my post means for me! I am overwhelmed and it has instilled some hope that for now I am not alone.
@Shygirl2828
You are so welcome, and I'm glad I saw your post! I like thinking and brainstorming too <3
Another challenge:
I want you to download a news app on your phone, and keep reading articles from it on a regular basis. I personally use the CNN app, not because of their political views, but because of ease of usage and readability. Keeping up with current local/world events can give you really easy convo starters. <3
Downloaded. But probably o look at the end result rather than focussing on the process. And if o start reading as well I feel it is going to take a year or two to understand general world affairs given that I know nothing and it gives me anxiety and u eventually stop.
I will try to be more disciplined and decide on a time to do this
@Shygirl2828
Take heart, dear one. <3 It may be a bit rocky at first. But it will become easier <3
Also, I don't understand a lot of world affairs myself. I'm kinda ignorant lol! But looking at the headlines briefly, there's some standalone headlines you can easily read and understand: A plane crash in India, a tribute to Brian Wilson (a member of the Beach Boys who recently passed), a wildfire in Oregon, a hidden coin collection sells for nearly $3.5 million, and... pickle-flavored ramen exists??? (Yeah, that's a CNN article lol).
Just click on what you understand. That's all. <3
Oh, and glow-in-the-dark axolotls!! <3
What in your opinion makes it easy to be around some people or connect easily to some people?
What do you think makes someone interesting? I know different people can find different ones interesting based on their own likes and dislikes but if you were to talk in general what do you think makes someone interesting?
People who take a genuine interest in you. Ask questions, lot of questions! People love talking about themselves. Also, people who smile and have an open body language.
I think it’s people who can carry a conversation well. Doesn’t matter the topic; they can be talking about the rocks under their feet, but if they’re enthusiastic and can engage in an interesting manner, you can’t help but love them <3
Wow! Love the answer! So glad to have you on this platform!
Awww thanks! You too <3
Ask me more, tell me your thoughts, tell me what you’ve learned <3
Busy with a family event. Will share and ask more in a few days! I love the way you think and it would be a pleasure to interact and learn more from you.
Sounds good <3
Awww thank you <3
Thank you one more time for helping me decide to start working on some goals again.
I will try my best to read everyday even if it is just one news article.
Grateful ❤️
@Shygirl2828
You are so welcome! <3 I'll be right here with you! You can discuss stuff with me <3 Easy, low-pressure <3
Hi Shygirl
It must be sad feeling lonely and not having friends? What interests you?