Be Honest 💕
If you had to be honest in this exact moment, no mask, no filter, what word or sentence would describe how you feel?
I’m hurting, but trying to be better
Vase, sometimes all you can is try! So sorry you are hurting. Please keep trying, things will get better! Hugs!
@yellowVase1534
Sending you my best wishes 💜💕
@Amanda84 I feel exhausted
Seth, I hate you are so worn out. Keep pushing forward. Will be praying that things become easier for you. Soon!!! ð¥°
@Sethuki
I hope you feel rested soon 💜 💕
Pensive
@BraveNotBroken
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Dang brave, l had to look pensive up to be sure it was what l thought it was. Basically pondering life! That is usually a great thing to be doing. Kind of like that Greek statue "The Thinker " ha. I do a lot of that with so much craziness going on in this world. People hating others because they don't believe exactly the same. Glad you are pensive, carry on! 🙃
Don't want to live anymore
CourteousPerson! Let me tell you a story. I worked at a junkyard for 10 years. Had a 22 year old kid working with me, (l was about 40). We arm wrestled, cut up, he was a joy to be around! His Dad was a jerk who was never in his life. But anytime we ran up on a problem, trying to remove a starter or whatever, if frustrated, he would say that he wished he were dead. I would always encourage him that he had his whole life ahead of him. I ended up taking him drag racing. ( l had a low budget old mustang). My reaction times when the light said GO were always slow. I let him take a run and he won. Fast reaction times! He was thrilled. Told me he wished l was his Dad, a huge compliment. Six months later he took his own life. I was devastated! The tiny graveside service so depressing. His grandfather spotted me. Cried on my shoulder. thanking me the time l took up with him. We worked together the day he died. Seemed like a normal day. He seemed in a great mood? So now, l take people very seriously who say they don't care to live. I wonder still how l didn't pick up that he meant these things he said. But on s rainy dreary night, he did the unthinkable! Please talk to someone if you really feel that way courteous! You need a hug, a real hug from someone who cares about you. And figure out why you are so overwhelmed! Please remember you are valuable. Even just posting here what you did,, l guarantee you others feel the same. Just aren't saying it. Glad you were honest. I am paying attention. I am a stranger, l know. I wish l was there beside you to sit down and just listen about your life, face to face! So sorry you are feeling this way. Please don't act on it. It will destroy a lot of people who love you! It haunts me till this day that l didn't take my young friend seriously! Love you brother or sister. Try to search for meaning in this life! And seek help if you know you are s threat to yourself. Only you know! Love you, please love yourself!!! You are worthy to be here. God has you here for a reason! Find that reason. Ask for help, we all need it at times! Hugs!!!!
Thanks a lot for your kind words! I have recently been wrongfully terminated from my job which destroyed the life I built after decades of struggle. Nothing makes any sense to me anymore. I don't know what I did wrong, and it's going to be very difficult if not impossible to find another job. I had to move back to my country, to my home, where I never felt at home, which is why I left in the first place. I'm back to square one for one person's ego. Nobody stood by my side, not even my friends. I prayed a lot, but nothing changes. I don't have access to professional help either. I faced a lot of things in my life, but there was always hope, something to look forward to. But now, there's none.
CurteousPerson, I used to be an underground coal miner, paid a lot because it is dangerous work. I had just gotten married, things were going great. But the mine caved in on me like you see on TV , buried me. I was sure l was dead, positive! My arm was out of socket and back broken, pin and needles in my legs, couldn't feel or move them. Coworkers dug me out. But now, as a newlywed, nothing worked below my waist. I felt entirely useless, like you right now. Like my life was over. But some guy came and visited me named Joey. He was built like Arnold Swartznegger! Amazing upper body. He pushed marathons in a track chair all over the world. He played wheelchair basketball and tennis, he worked at a bank, just built a house on a lake, taught people in wheelchairs how to sit-ski. He was dating all kinds of beautiful girls, even ended up dating my younger sister for a while. Thing is, he gave me a whole different attitude about what my capabilities were, l quit feeling sorry for myself, began doing 10K road races, played basketball with Joey, my wife and l figured out *** to have sex again, l ended up with an amazing life. But l could have given up! I met lots of people who did give up. They just refused to keep trying? All of their marriages immediately collapsed, they just sat at home and did nothing. So you have a choice! You can be like them. Just give up, or be like me and Joey, make the best of an aweful situation! It's up to you! I would trade with you in a second! I have money, a nice house, but in a dangerous wheelchair. I would give you all l own to trade bodies. I would start from scratch, work hard and be successful, absolutely l would. Maybe not rich, but have a life. A wife, kids, a dog, a life! A walking around life. Are you blessed to have good health? You can do anything. Change careers, whatever man. You can still have a good life, even where you are now! All a matter of attitude. What if l snapped my fingers and you were like me, paralyzed from the navel down? Then maybe you could feel sorry for yourself. But man, you can do anything! The sky is the limit! Love you brother. You are far more capable than you realize. I promise. Listen to Jordan Peterson on u-tube, Change you life! You can do it
Believe in yourself. I was a coal miner, it was all l knew how to do? But l owned a pet shop, did all kinds of jobs, had a great life. You can too! Love you brother. Sorry you are back to ground zero. Its the pits. But you still have a chance for a great life!!! Hugs!!
Thank you! That was very inspiring! I'm so sorry about what happened to you. Yes, sometimes we take our privileges for granted.
BTW I'm a woman 🙂
Well, l assumed you were a guy didn't l,? Lol. The pressure on women to perform is aweful. It is true. And l get why you came to America which is where l assume you were. I actually would have been more gentle if l realized you were a girl! I was intense! So sorry. They might kick me off this thing, who knows? I paid the 150 for a month with a therapist. She has been great. I think you should do the same. She helped me see myself in a new light. My life didn't go to plan, lost the woman l loved in 2004. She finally fell out of love with me. I about killed me, was worse than my broken back! Balled like a baby for weeks, grieving that she divorced me. Finally quit looking backwards, AGAIN., and then my life went on. I miss her but she remarried and is gone. I had to move on and did! You can too, sweetie! It won't be easy! It will be difficult! But you can move forward. But you have some grieving to do, big time. I think its why you said what you did originally. It just seems like you wasted all that time and effort for nothing! I get how aweful that feels. I felt the same after a 23 yr marriage..like it was a total waste of time! I felt similar to you, only time in my life l had the same thought you 1st wrote! But thankfully l got past it. You will too. I am truly sorry. And especially sorry if l hurt your feelings. Was not my intention. Hope you will forgive me if l did. I truly feel for you! I pray that you can find a good job and climb back into a comfortable life!
Courteous, l read over what l wrote and wow would l have said it in a more gentle way if l knew you were a woman. I am chuckling to myself.i wrote it as fast as l could move my thumb on this phone, mistakes all over the place. Its like l was giving a talk to a football player before he ran back on the field! Ha. To lose all you have worked for is huge! Aweful! Unimaginable. But it happens constantly. You will get through this! I feel less worried about you now! I can empathize big time, more than you know! I will be praying for you that God shows you your next step. And then the one after that until you find you are back on your feet again to some degree! You can do this! I am old now, 68, in terrible pain. That is why l found this place. There is no miracle cure for pain from a snapped spinal cord. Just doesn't exist. So l had to tj Maxx because of the pain. I had handled it well when younger, but it has gotten harder to deal with as l have aged. I was looking for purpose! And this site hss given it to me as l try to encourage people. Most dont say what you said in your original text. I usually am very gentle. But l felt, heck. This GUY might unalive himself if l dont really get my point across strongly! Kinda embarrassed l said all that to a woman. But l guess it is still valid. But you grieving a huge loss of effort and time and that kind of emotional pain to me is worse than physical pain! No contest. I took breaking my back better than l did my wife leaving me! I was a mess. So you sound like you are too and sucks!! But in time, things will work out though you will always wonder what could have been after all the work you put in for it to go to nothing due to things out of your control. Hang in there and hope,! "Hope is a good thing, maybe the best of things!"(A movie quote, but true)
Courteous, you have hope. But. You can refuse to see it, and just give up. Giving up is easy! Trying again is difficult. Which will you choose?
Courteous, you have to grieve the loss of the job you worked decades to build. Its like a death. I had to grieve losing half my body. Once l got past that, which took a year or more to even accept, l moved forward. I put my past behind me. I was never going to walk again, not until heaven. But l decided to keep struggling! I learned to dress myself, go to the bathroom, all the bull that is different as a paraplegic. And l learned to do wheelies, became expert in a wheelchair. Found a job, retired from TJ Maxx. Still cant walk, but hsd a fun life! See what l am saying. If l did it, you can! Grieve your past then let it go! Quit thinking about it. Look forward to the future! What can you do to be happy? Does it take 10 million dollars to be happy? Of course not. Just try and have a good life, treat others right, love people! Make a completely new life. J has to, you can too and you have a head start on me! Lol, so hang in there my friend. Stay positive as much as you can. Try your best to quit looking backwards. The past is over. Done! You only have right now, the present, to make concrete plans, and put them into action. You have time for a wonderful life. I promise!
Thank you so much for the inspiration! You truly helped me. And don't be embarrassed! You weren't harsh or didn't say anything inappropriate. Yes, being a woman was the reason I was fired. I was being harassed at work and when I complained, they decided to keep the abusers and get rid of the victim. Where I live now, we don't have good therapists or psychiatrist here and I can't pay overseas. You were right about me being in America. I moved out after the incident happened, because I was tired of people's political behavior. But I really appreciate your time, you have been truly helpful, I needed this.
Courteous, you sound so much better. I still hate you moved from the U.S.! That is corporate America for you though. TJ Maxx was/is a politically correct organization. All sorts of I oddball rules even in the lower levels of it. Being conservative or a liberal should make zero difference if your being harassed at work. But corporations hate having their boats rocked. Much easier to just fire you for no real reason and things are smooth again. It's a shame and l truly hate it for you. But you seem very talented. Wherever you are, l bet you can climb the ladder again! We have to be too vague here to really help much. But if you excelled at a job once, you have the ability to do it again! These corporate giants hate complaints. Me in a wheelchair, ha, gave me an actual advantage! It looked good to have a paraplegic working for them, a "disabled" person. If l complained that a room was too tight for me to move around in, they feared a lawsuit and would move heaven and earth to fix the problem!!! Maybe you should rent a wheelchair for your next job! Kidding, kidding!!!! But keep writing, l am curious where you life goes from here! Love you! GOD BLESS!
Thank you! Yes, I'll update if something happens, but so far nothing changed. I was flying too close to the sun. I trusted people because they appeared as "friends", and then they betrayed me. And when I reacted to their constant lying, manipulation, betrayal and gaslighting, they said I have anxiety and depression. I couldn't complain against them, because they were my friends! I can't move on from this because I don't understand what happened. Did they really ever care for me or did they really wanted to harm me? What was real? The care, or the cruelty? Called me "friend", then didn't hesitate to ruin my career! Didn't they really not realize how it'd affect my future? And I did so much for them, more than my job responsibilities. I have so many questions, and I wish someone told me what did I do so wrong...
BTW, TJMAXX was my most favorite place in America! I'm not kidding! I love shopping trips more than hiking. I miss TJMAXX 😢
Life is good. I had a paper today, it was easy so it went well. There was just about 10 of us giving the paper, so my social anxiety wasn't there almost not at all. And i realized that i must stop letting people get to me, because it changes the way i walk into the world (: life is so good, what i realized today is a game changer, i gotta stop absorbing unecessary negativity and i can be happy like this all the time :D
@Goosty105 Don't worry about what anyone else is doing, you just live for yourself and do you! Walk in that room, confident as ever, holding your head high, and saying "I got this"! It doesn't matter if it's a paper you have to do, or whatever the activity is. I know social anxiety is difficult, but look at how good you felt for doing for yourself and not letting others get to you. Try and block out that negative energy with a visual shield that protects you against others! Remember...You Got This! I hope you have a wonderful weekend! :)
@Goosty105
I'm glad you are good 💜💕
@Amanda84 Queasy 😓🤮
@SafeSpacewithLisa
Ah no, I hope that you feel better soon 💜 💕
@Amanda84 Thank you =)
Barren
@versatilecat1977
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Like I want to cut my uterus out
@meowness143
🥺 I'm sorry you are in so much pain 💕💜
I feel hypocritical, tired, stressed and overwhelmingly regretful.
@Shoya7Ishida
I'm sorry you are struggling 💜💕
@Amanda84 unloved
@modestCamp5741
🥺 I'm sorry you are feeling this way 💜 💕
