Been shunned, humiliated, betrayed, sexually abused etc..
So that now I have no one but that is fine because this is a rotten society. I am afraid to put my own pic online and have people see it, i get severe anxiety if i only have 20 followers or friends. When I pass away one day, there won't even be a photo of me. Meanwhile you cant get enough of selfies and "friends". You do not know how I feel. You would not shun, exploit or use sarcasm on yourself or anyone in your circle. You are not feeling like running away but crushing anyone who may put you in a shadow.
This is what happens when a person's illnesses are taken personally. People who do wrong suffer illnesses, these illnesses cause them to misbehave. All people are capable of doing wonderful and horrible things in this society, one's focus is just on the negative things because of a self centered attitude. If one plays the victim and remains insecure there is no taking charge.
Life is full of pain and discomfort, these things will happen. It is possible to change the relationship to these things.
"I have no one" no. There is yourself and as long as the self is ignored as valid company it is only natural to feel lonely and because of this there is evidently self neglect. All people that one can even claim to have can leave at their own will and they can possibly bring harm when around. Why suffer being alone and suffer when another leaves? This is a sign of insecurity, build oneself up, take care. Be kind to oneself first, stop allowing these thoughts to control the way one sees the world and then there is the way the world is, not the way it is thought to be. The more attached to temporary things there are the more suffering there will be when they leave.
The only thing that truly gets hurt is the ego. Give people power and that is when they will manipulate the one giving them this control.
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@BodhisattvaKuato please dont talk in slangs or vague way. What you mean by illnesses?
Everything someone does that harms another is because of illness. Illness causes misbehavior, if there is anger there must be hatred, therefore one is inflicted with hatred, this is an example. If one betrays they are inflicted with confusion and indecisiveness, this causes them to lie. If a person sexually abuses another they would have to have an insufficient amount of discipline and self control to do so. All mistreatment is because of an infliction that causes an imbalance in ones mind. If there is the intent to harm there must be some ignorance of the moral consequence of harming someone or something, this ignorance is illness. This includes self harm, harming oneself causes the most immediate effects. This can be through words and actions, 'i am not good enough, I am ugly, I am stupid'. There is also the perpetuation of harm on one from another, 'they hurt me, they don't like me anymore, they called me stupid, they said I am not good enough'. This is when one convinces themselves that these are true and begin calling themselves horrible things. This is also from an assumption based on a notion of how things are, one can also assume negatively of themselves and others.
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@BodhisattvaKuato you completely went off topic and i dont want or need to go there. Be careful not to forget about your meditating session
Good morning!
Privacy online should be a standard practice by all.
I'm sorry your experiences have been difficult.
If you would like or need to talk, you can message me.
I don't have set times Im online yet, but will respond as soon as I can.
Take care.
