Emotional Loneliness

@BeingExceptional

Hi, I just recently joined 7 cups and I have found the people here to be very caring and supportive. I don't think anyone will judge you for what you wrote here. 

I've struggled with fitting in and belonging all of my life, and let me tell you.. I am old, so that is a long time.😂 For many of us"not fitting in" is not neutral but is a source of great pain and self criticism.

But if you saw a shark in a goldfish bowl, would you think "there's something wrong with that shark - he needs to cut off his fin, pull his teeth, and dye himself orange so that he fits in with the goldfish? 

I think what really helps is to get yourself in a place where there are other people like you. Big cities, art towns, certain types of universities.. places where those of us who feel different on the inside tend to gather. You can also try communities that practice radical acceptance - 7 cups feels like one of those places.  Once you have a few peeps, even if you haven't found a romantic partner, life gets so much better.

Hii. Tbh I completely understand ur pain and it's quite relatable.. if u ever wanna talk / be friends or anything, feel free to reach out... 🦋

@BeingExceptional I feel for you. I've been single sincce decades. Don't mean to sound desperate but I'm not the kind that would fall for someone who gave me mild attention. I also prefer quality. Never held hands for my entire life so iddk what it feels like to be in love. Sometimes my heart learns to ache for things I couldn't have. My family has always been the reason I became nothing.. There's no love coming from them it's pure hatred and disgust. I feel like a total strangers in my own home. Never felt warm whatsoever but I always love spending time alone when I'm at home and outside. Yet I feel like something missing and I too feel sad all the *** time.. Friends aren't  available cus they got someone in their life to spend time with. I'm happy for them... Just not myself

@BeingExceptional 

It is brave of you to come forward and say things that most feel but not able to acknowledge, even to themselves. 

I have question though, are you waiting for someone to initiate? I ask bcoz demand of warmth is one thing that keeps it away from us.

If you are able to give it, even little bit, to people around you, friends, family, here on 7 cups, you will find yourself in whole new space. 

I say this bcoz as you want this, most of us want that too, but never initiate, due to fear of being judged, taken advantage of, manipulated and other bad things. 

You too the first step to say out loud, which is really commendable. I am sure you will find genuine people around here with whom you can find space you have been looking for, and know more about yourself in the process. 

Feel free to reach out whenever ! 😊 😇

@BeingExceptional
Hello, all that started when they always told me: Think Positive and didn't asked me about more details about my Worries, Feelings or Sadness. Even if you were Married and have much of Friends you will feel lonley if they just trusted you and told you everything but didn't gave you a chance to hear you.
There are too much ways, how you can feel lonley but this ist how you can know that you are almost have a very strong Personality and how the others need you in their Life. I KNow it is too hard but in this World theres is some People who wanna really be with you even if they are on the other side of this planet. 
I wish you and us all the Best by our War against lonliness.