Help
A few weeks ago, me and him got into an argument and got into a tiny physical altercation. He took me to the hospital right after and hasn’t put his hands on me since.
I love him and he treats me really well most of the time. I barely pay for anything and he’s usually very kind. If you saw him, you wouldn’t believe he would do that. But it’s still stuck with me. I don’t fully feel safe, even though I love being with him.
I think part of what’s confusing me is that every male figure in my life has hit me at some point, so sometimes I feel like I’m the problem. I’m also dealing with being pregnant and the decision about that, and I’ve just been crying a lot. I don’t know what to think. I just needed to tell someone because keeping it inside feels heavy. I feel so guilty I’m killing the baby I always wanted
Hi @redPark1669. It seems like you are dealing with an incredibly difficult situation right now, and I am so sorry. If you need to talk to me and let it all out, I would never judge anything. Here for you, you are NOT alone. Remember that.
letting a partner pay for a bulk of things lessens the control you have and erodes your agency
when we enmesh like that we invite certain behaviors
two separate individuals going through life together both with separate agencies coming together but not enmeshing allows both to be themselves who each other liked to begin with
I have some questions : How many times has he hit you before it got to the hospital?
Are you ready to talk about why he hit you?
What was his emotional temper like before he got to hit you, did you notice anything before?
Does he know you are pregnant?
Wishing you all the best.