How to unlove somebody?
Ive been in relationship with someone for 12 years and things are getting really bad lately.
He wants to get things slowly and to take a break. My world is about him. And am struggling with this changes.
How to love less and be present at the moment? Am so overwhelmed and all I think is him.
I understand the feeling of wanting to love less and only thinking about him. I never think anyone should have to try to dim down their love for someone because it only makes it worse for you. being authentic to how you truly feel will leave you with no regrets in the end. but i think the first step is trying to focus more on yourself. start doing things that make u happy whether that’s eating your favourite foods, watching your favourite shows or movies, playing sports going for walks or finding a new hobby. the more you focus on yourself the less the world is going to revolve around him. if he wants to take a break i think you should set your boundaries right now. asking what a break is to him? how long, are you allowed to talk to other people, will there be a chance of getting back together? if not, is continuing communication only going to make it harder for both of you. is a break just space for awhile or inevitably breaking up is the main question here.
focusing on yourself, doing things that bring you joy and letting yourself process emotions rather than pushing them away is the best thing i think you can do because no matter how hard it feels right now it will get better over time.
i really hope this helps, let me know how things go:)
