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Need some more advice on dealing with moving back into toxic home?

User Profile: Matcha4Health
Matcha4Health July 23rd, 2023

Hey guys,

I moved back in home from college with my mom as the dorms was hurting me mentally and financially. My mom is super toxic, manipulative, and suffers from multiple mental illnesses, and it’s hard to live with her.

Some examples

  • Taken away my car keys so I can’t drive or use the car (sometimes)
  • Manipulates me into feeling bad if I don’t pay / buy her something
  • Threatens / gaslights me into moving back into the dorms
  • Likes to argue, scream, yell with people in public
  • If I help her, she will literally find one reason to complain or be negative about

Moving back to college isn’t easy, as it’s out of state (legally, financially speaking). I thought she changed, hence went ahead and made some changes such as addresses, and legal documents for the couple of months I’ve been here.

In the meantime, I know maybe giving advice isn’t encouraged, but given the situation and constraints I have, what’re some things I can do for myself in the meantime?

Thanks in advance.




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User Profile: juliak1968
juliak1968 July 28th, 2023

@Matcha4Health

Hello,

I see the struggles you are facing, I send you strength!!~ I have never been in that situation so I can only support you through it. For starters though I can totally relate about mothers, mine if very manipulative and argumentative with anybody she decides not to accept. A used to be nice lady but ever sense she got mental health help she has acted crazy and stingy. I'm in full support of you going back to the dorms just for the peace and quiet. "Concentrate on your studies and the rest will fix itself" WHAT i MEAN BY THAT IS IF YOU COULD RENEW YOUR DESIRES FOR SCHOOL YOU WILL FOREVER THANK YOURSELF FOR THIS EFFORT NOW. cAN YOU AFFORD THE DORMS? Opps Caps Lock lol I look at the keys not always what I am actually typing. I just wanted to let you know that this may seem like a big problem right now but it will work out!!!

Good luck and Blessings, Day💜