help

i had a big argument with one of my friends. I ended up, according to her, putting her in a mental hospital and ruining her life. I say that im sorry and she goes to insult me sayong i dont know how to apologize correctly and that im basic and that what im going through isnt anything compared to her problems that i caused somehow by trying to help her. she also said she regrets ever helping me at my lowest point. she demands i say something of use. I say that some of the things she said were uncalled for (that im basic and that what im going through isnt anything compared to her problems that i caused somehow by trying to help her, and that she regrets ever helping me at my lowest point.) and she says i deserve every insult and shes not taking them back. she asked me if i want to stay friends. i ask her if she does because it looks like she doesnt. and she says (and i quote) "Oh right, so if I offend you then I need to shut up but if you go out of line you hand me a weak-*** apology and I just go with it? I'm not sure if I want to be friends with you because YOU RUINED MY LIFE. If it was vice versa you would feel the same way." I say im trying my best here and she says

"I'm not supposed to just chill out and act like everything is okay. I get to be mad at you. Stop playing the victim." i say i wont hold on to the friendship if she wont and that im not playing the victim and i should be mad too because i was insulted. She tells me that were getting nowhere and if i dont recognize how im wrong then were done. aske what i did wrong and she says, "You keep changing the subject, saying that you are hurt, playing the victim, and accusing me of not wanting to stay friends. You don't want to evaluate the fact that I am mad and will continue to be mad at you for a long time. That doesn't mean I hate you or don't want to be friends with you but it does mean that I am not going to be all friendly with you immediately and everything is going to be fixed in one conversation." she wants me to respond to that and so im asking your advice. am i in the wrong? should i apologize? or should i not apologize and risk loseing the friendship?