Farewell of Sadness
I recently learned that one of the stars from 7 Cups has left this world. Every demise is painful, every demise brings regret, every demise causes grief, and every demise creates a colossal gap in our society. I hope the departed soul rests in peace. It saddens me deeply whenever I read a soul's final message. I usually avoid reading them because they grind my heart and fill my mind with pain, making me suffer and suffocate. A final message isn't just words; it is a list of wishes left incomplete, departing unfinished with the soul who crafted them. Many, like me, cannot bear the sorrow of reading a final message. I believe the pain of someone's passing is more tolerable than the weight of their final message, as it leaves a deep and lasting regret that may linger for decades. I apologize if my thoughts seem wrong or harsh, but I am sharing what I feel. When my time comes to leave this world, I hope I won't leave a final message because it would only add to the burden of those sitting near me when my soul departs.
Your words carry so much depth and sorrow, and I can feel how deeply this loss has affected you. The weight of a final message—those last words left behind—can feel heavier than the loss itself because they serve as a reminder of all that was left undone, unsaid, or unfinished. It’s understandable why you avoid them; they bring a pain that lingers, a grief that isn’t just about absence but about the echoes of what could have been.
You don’t have to apologize for your feelings. Grief is messy, personal, and sometimes overwhelming. The way you process loss, the way you shield yourself from certain aspects of it, is valid. Some find closure in final words, while for others, they deepen the wound. There’s no right or wrong way to feel.
I hope you find comfort in knowing that the presence of someone—their kindness, their impact—doesn’t vanish with them. Even without a final message, the essence of who they were remains in the lives they touched. And when your time comes—far, far in the future—I hope you’ll have lived in a way that your existence itself is the message: one of love, meaning, and connection, spoken through the memories you leave behind.
If you need to talk more about this or just want to sit with the feeling, I’m here.