Forgetting Sorrowful Moments
“For some people, forgetting is a more difficult task than remembering. Fortunately, most memories fade in time. For those that don’t, the annoying ones, there are tools. Therapists know those tools and can help. They probe to find out what triggers a troubling recollection. It could be as innocent as a coincidental awareness of a color, a smell, a sound, a death of a loved one, or any one of a thousand prompts connected to a common emotion.
That method of remembering can also be a method of forgetting. If the memory is emotionally negative, try the cognitive reframing approach spinning it to a positive association. Remember, the brain can do amazing things under the power of heavy-duty concentration. For a general example, if a repeated annoying memory pops up by an association with a particular food, a piece of music, or the scent of a special flour, try disassociating the harm by mindfully replacing the set-off with one of the many moments when those same triggers afforded joy.”
Read the whole article at Psychology Today
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@globalBraid3744
Thank you Braid for such an amazing post. I tried reframing negative thoughts into positive ones and it didn’t work at first. It took me some time to learn how to do this and allow myself to think positively.
How was it like for you?
@Bunny1637
The same for me! It really did take a lot of time for me to be able to listen again to some songs without feeling sorrow and when the memories came to my mind I only felt pain. I think it also does not work when the loss is still very recent, I would say time is really the key.
@globalBraid3744
agreed! Time doesn’t heal all wounds but it makes it easier to live with them.
@Bunny1637
Well said! Some wounds are too deep to be completely healed but it can get easier and more manageable.
