Please Help me. I'm Stuck
I don't feel good for most of the day. I have an exam on 13 Aug. My dad said that if I don't score well enough, he'll stop my current education which revolves around engineering concepts and enrol me into Vocational Center aka electrician's school. I don't want that to happen, despite this, I know that I can't achieve what he wants. people around me feel disgusted with me. My close friend told me that I am stupid and said a bad word. We used to this because we were so-called "bros" but this time hit differently. Then A student said that I irritate him. At home, Mom said that I'm trash. She also explained how much she's suffering financially because of me. She said that I'm a burden.
When I sat to study, I felt so bad that I felt like crying. Despite this, I pushed myself. Sometimes I wonder what would happen to people around me if I disappeared. They'll probably be happier.
I cannot explain my situation further. My last thread was removed. I just want to get over this. Idk how.
@ApurvaSingh123
this all sounds awful to go through. I understand most of what you said. I've had to leave so many friends group. I've never known if they were joking or not my current one said they didn't want me there they all laughed this was a few days ago. and it hurts
Sorry to hear that. But the way you tried to move on from such groups shows that you took a stand for yourself. I hope you're in a better mental space now🌱
@ApurvaSingh123 No you can not disappear. People would not be happier. Sometimes we are surrounded by people who say hurtful things. It’s not helpful to internalize these words. What you are doing is the right thing. Keep studying and prepare as well as you can for that exam. Eventually you will surround you with people who are kind and supportive. We can’t see the future and so our imagination makes up some awful movie in our minds about what it will be like. We also tend to think our lives will stay “stuck” in however we are feeling now. But things always change. Keep moving forward my friend.
Sending hugs. 🤍
That sounds like a really difficult situation to go through. However, I want to tell you that you matter. It must be hard to believe in it when you hear such things everyday but don't give up on yourself because if you believe in yourself only then everyone will.
Your efforts matter. The way you're trying to pick yourself up and studying despite it all. All of it matters. I want to say just one thing. Probably, your work towards the goals can get you out of this. Even if they don't, you can't stop trying. Right? But not just because everyone else is expecting you to. Because you want to get out of this.
Talking about your friend circle. Personally, when I was in school I used to have such friends too. But trust me on this. Their words don't define your worth. Just because they don't treat you well doesn't mean everyone will. You're much more than what they say. Probably, you can try to write few things everyday that you're proud of. About yourself. 🤍
For example, you just said that you're trying despite the pain. That is something to be proud of.
There are many people you can talk to here. 💛
I hope you find some support and positivity and get through it all. Wishing you luck. 🌸
hey for the pls think about yourself listen to your inner voice which dreams about a future youb wish for remember this is your life . sorry to say this but your dad might not be there one day who will you blame for the torture of waking up to hated job due to the studies you pursued due to your father ,just imagen.You will be the one to blame as you choose to be destroy yourself bry allowing you father to pressurize you.search ways of be assertive with you family on google ,tAKE OR LEAVE MY ADVICE IM NOT FORCING YOU ITS JUST MY POINT OF VIEE
@ApurvaSingh123 LEARN TO BE SIGMA STOIC
@limegreenPine6012 idk if it will help, *** they need rather valuable advice
@ApurvaSingh123
Hello, I am very sorry to hear that, I would really like to help you, if you feel comfortable write me and I will try to make you feel better or at least listen to you. PS: I am sure that the people around you would not be better off without you, you are an incredible person and even if you don't see it now when everything improves you will see how much positive impact you leave on the people who love you, much encouragement <3
Hi @Yougotmyback and @Uarenotaloneee
Thanks for your support.
I just want to share a few more things.
I confronted my mom and said that I don't like her behaviour. And then she said " My behaviour is meant to be liked by my Husband, not you. You don't even matter."
At this point I have nothing to say.
Also: I realised that my productivity has plunged. When I sit down to study, small concepts are becoming much harder to understand. It's because I'm feeling bad or concepts are already hard?
I have to learn Uncertainty principle and Wave theory in chemistry
Sorry to hear that. If you can't fix the external factors then you'll have to rely on the internal ones it seems. You're your strength and I hope you don't give in to everything others are telling you. Sending you lots of love. 💛
Talking about the studying part. It's okay to lose focus sometimes with all what's going on. Try not to be too hard on yourself. Here are some tips -
1) Break the concept in parts so that you don't feel overwhelmed
2) Try different resources and make questions for yourself to make it more interesting
3) Set timers for yourself (not too long)
4) Take breaks and keep rewards for yourself. If someone else isn't supporting you then you gotta support yourself
5) Try and find an accountability partner. Someone who helps you out and keeps an eye on you. If you find it hard then you can try 'study with me' videos on YouTube or find someone here
Hope it helps! 🤗❣️
Hi, just replying to check in.
Hope you're doing okay. ❤️
