in a major slump lately

I have been married for 15years. I married my highschool sweetheart. We have 2 children, teenagers actually. My husband and I have been through a lot. I think I have grown a lot more than he has over these years , but my problem is communication. We have none. I guess I have major resentment towards him. How to get past it is my question. He accepts no accountability for his actions. He is against the world in his eyes. I'm tired of the poor baby crap from him. I am 36 , he is 38. It's one thing to care for the kids but not him. I want someone to lean on.. I never have had that with him