Verbal abuse husband

I am Japanese woman my husband is black American who serves for US military. His verbal abuse is beyond repair. Call me b itch or f you or N words. I don’t appreciate that he say I have problems so no one wants to be my friend etc. he told me he has ADHD but found out he lied about it he don’t have ADHD. I’ve been concern about it so I asked my mom about it but now it was lie I told her he lied to me and my mom HATE liar. Now she’s suggest me to get divorce. We dated a year and got married this year august. He just yell scream loud allllll the time. We Japanese are not loud. I have sensitive hearing. But when he yell scream in argue I always nicely ask please calm down but he never stop when I say I have sensitive hearing he say I’m lying. I told him sooooo many times to not call me n word or f you but he do. Then he say I’m disrespect him but he has no respect tho ? Hypocrite tho ? Then he say I’m hypocrite. Conversation always going no where. Can’t find solution at all. He act like he has ADHD tho. Always say same thing over and over. Can’t clean up. Everything slow. But he doesn’t feel bad about being late for appointments etc. when I speaking Japanese to Japanese ppl he interrupts me I say wait but he get *** so quick. I honestly wanna get divorce. But I’m not sure. He snore extremely loud so I can’t sleep we don’t sleep together he complain. I don’t wanna have se all the time but he does like rabbit. He get so grumpy if he can’t have se . I always feel like I’m obligated to have se and I’m not comfortable when I say I’m not happy or I’m not comfortable he say you only care about yourself and get grumpy yelling again. He yell yell yell but he say he isn’t yelling but I got complain by landlord because he’s loud he walk loud. Idk what to do.