How self-compassionate are you?
We all know the golden rule: reciprocity. But what if we view others far more kindlythan we view ourselves? Self-compassion ? treating ourselves to the same compassion we hold for others ? is one way to counter excessive self-criticism, due to low self-esteem or perfectionist tendencies. You can test your self-compassion here.
I test as moderately self-compassionate, and that makes sense to me. I'm (eventually) pretty forgiving to myself, my score shows, but while I understand others share the struggles that I do, I still tend to let myself feel isolated.
How do you score? In what ways are you most self-compassionate, and where do you have room to be kinder to yourself? How might you practice that?
I got 2.88 overall. I am trying to be more self-compassionate about myself lately, because I know everybody can feel low sometimes and it is not my fault. I am learning to love myself a little more everyday, and I hope that will help.
Overall score was 1.56, but honestly I'm not surprised about it. I have a sort of self destructive personality, so the 1.2 in self kindness and 4.6 in self judgement sound about right. I know that changing my mentality (regarding the way I treat myself) would help, but I just don't see that realistically happening.
@Sgalan1990
I hope you give yourself a chance to see if it can happen. Our scores were similar in some ways. I think you can overcome this with time and the proper tools. I wish us both success.
Please remember that you are not alone in this and there is Hope. Other's fight this battle too. And some have won.
self kindness 3.6
self judgement 3.6
common Humanity 3.25
isolation 3.5
mindfulness 3.0
over-identification3.25
Overall score: 2.92
Oh wow, I think just doing this has made me realise how hard I am on myself. I got a 1.67 and an actual 5 on isolation (I don't know if that's amazing or just depressing honestly?) and although this is far from surprising it's been... interesting. Thank you. 
Self-Kindness: 2.40
Self-Judgment: 3.20
Common Humanity: 3.25
Isolation: 2.50
Mindfulness: 2.25
Over-Identification: 4.25
Overall score: 2.66
Hmm, how could I improve over-identification, as it seems to be the problem?
I socred very low, but I'm not surprised:
Self-Kindness: 1.00
Self-Judgment: 4.80
Common Humanity: 1.25
Isolation: 5.00
Mindfulness: 2.50
Over-Identification: 4.25
Overall score: 1.45
It's still eye-opening, regardless of what I expected though.
Here's what I scored
Self-Kindness: 1.60
Self-Judgment: 5.00
Common Humanity: 1.50
Isolation: 4.00
Mindfulness: 1.25
Over-Identification: 5.00
Overall score: 1.39
Here is my test results -
Self- kindness - 1.40
Self-Judgement - 3.20
Common Humanity - 1.25
Isolation - 3.75
Mindfullness - 1.50
Over- Identification - 3.00
Overall Score - 2.03
Self-Kindness: 2.40
Self-Judgment: 4.00
Common Humanity: 3.25
Isolation: 3.75
Mindfulness: 2.50
Over-Identification: 2.00
Overall score: 2.73
So I'm moderate. High judgemental of my insecurites. I'm shorter than everyone my age, I can't reach things, making me work slower and feeling inadequate. Pretty high isolation. Yes, I know others are in pain, so why should I share my pain? I keep to myself. Self kindness...yes, I know when I'm feeling down, and I immediately journal it (phone memo if I need to), or listen to my fave songs, but do I forgive myself? No. What is over-identification? So the lower the score, the less you agree with the topic?
Self-Kindness: 2.00
Self-Judgment: 4.20
Common Humanity: 2.25
Isolation: 3.75
Mindfulness: 2.00
Over-Identification: 3.50
Overall score: 2.13
Low score as expected. I hate myself most of the time is probably why.
